General Chat

I see we posted together then Vera :-D Sorry that you are still having trouble sorting out your physio. I should be so straightforward shouldn't it. Fingers crossed it is sorted PDQ now. So damned annoying for you :-S :-S

Evening All,

Sunshine and rain mix here. I would have slept well only OH's cough kept us both awake. He went early to the surgery this morning to get his blood tests done, but while I was at class, he rang the surgery later to check they had sent the referral for his xray at the Hospital today. It was a good job he did, as they hadn't, even though the doctor asked if he was going today and needs the results back for his next appointment with her on Tuesday. So at least that saved us wasted time and a journey across the city for nothing and enabled him to get on with some work. He phoned them again later this afternoon and the referral has gone now so we will go first thing in the morning. We both tried to contact his garage about the car today, but strangely no-one was answering the phone!! In addition to the beeping warning light, his clutch pedal is getting stuck when he releases it and then makes a loud 'boing' a few seconds after as it springs up again! :-S

Frank it must have been scary getting a pain like that and what an ordeal at the hospital. I hope resting today has helped as a scare like that can leave you a bit shaken up.. I bet Ros will enjoy The King and I and it was her good luck she got the free ticket. How is the tooth? I can imagine you and Biggles getting some ZZZZZ together!

Vera that was a lovely card your friend made for you and she should have been very satisfied with it. :-) I'm glad your back seems a bit easier but did you manage to arrange the physio in the end? I had a similar frustrating experience today trying to link my nectar card with MyMail. In the end it locked the account, the helpline on the screen wasn't recognised when I tried it a couple of times, so I resorted to their chat screen. The email link they sent to change my password didn't arrive, so they sent a code by text I could use and that had just 4 minutes left before it expired so it was a miracle I managed to do it. I hope your OH's neck is less stiff now.

AnninG you have reminded me I must press on with going through my clothes. It sounds like the nap was what your OH needed. I hope your arm is beginning to be more comfortable.

That was a long time sitting Jane. A bit like when I took part in the research study that time. I hope your chair was more comfy than the one I had! I remember it was a palaver going to the loo and removing clothing with a cannula stuck in your arm too. Hopefully you will not feel so many effects this time.

I hope your back is getting better too Mandy. My ex SIL's Lab wasn't allowed upstairs either. I lived in a chalet bungalow with stairs at the time and didn't know so called him to follow me. The poor dog just sat at the bottom of the stairs looking worried as he knew it was something he wasn't allowed to do! :-)

When we went for lunch yesterday a load of sheep had got out along the lane in one of the villages. They had spotted sheep in another field and all gathered at the gate on the grass verge and were munching the tasty spring grass most unconcerned. When we drove back, they had covered about half a mile and were in the village and being driven back by a couple of farmers to wherever they had come from. Some were heading into the gardens they passed and looked as if they were having a grand old day out! :-D

One of my friends who does the wool felting with me has made me one of her little cat brooches so I will see if I can send a pic. At class today we made some felt bowls/boxes but as usual mine is still in progress! I never got my applique finished to take so will see if I can do it now while OH is out at another meeting.

Evening. Well that was a strange day, OH ate his soup for lunch and was fine for about an hour then went steadily downhill and fell asleep downstairs again. Said he felt shaky and week.was better after a sleep but not himself. Ate his meal ok and is watching football upstairs, or, as I can’t see, may be asleep.. But no there was just a bang and I shot upstairs to find him doing something with the TV in his office which included lifting the atavistic off the shelf. He didn’t need my help he said so goodness knows. Must be some sort of bug.

Vera what a rigmarole that was hope you get it all sorted in the end.

Jane hope you have more good days than bad this time that was a very big shop.

Vera I think your friend should be very proud of that card she sent you its lovely. I know what she means about it could have been better as I think that with someof the things I make. I find it always helps to look at something the next day or take a picture of it and look at that. That way you see the mistakes and see it in a different way.

AnnG hope hubby is ok tomorrow and it was just a blip today. Hope he is nt sickening for something.

So nice to see Frank and Jane posting as I do miss both of them when they are away.
Good the toothache went Frank and you did'nt need the dentist. Sometimes if mine play up a bit I swill my mouth with Jamesons whiskey, works a treat.

Jane are you still on the Baileys? I won that big litre bottle at the Christmas Fair and oh bought me another bottle after that one disappeared but I still have some of that left.

Done some varnishing today of my bits and the one thing I painted, only on the top, baked ok so I may do a bit of that in future.

I must tell you this before I forget. I drove up the drive tonight to get the F & C and as I stopped at the top to go onto the road and put my seatbelt on a Barn owl flew past me at eye level. I pulled out onto the road and had my headlights on full beam and it flew along in front of me till I reached the crossraods where it turned right and I went straight on. It was lovely following it and you could see it all white in the headlight. Some thing I doubt I would ever see again. :-) :-D :-) :-D

Good morning, fingers crossed OH seems ok this morning.

Mel how lovely to see the barn owl and even to follow it.
Love the mistletoe leaves, very realistic.

We bought a bottle of Baileys when it was reduced last month. Don't normally have that as a drink of choice but had some at Christmas at daughters so decided to get some.

Morning AnnG and all,

Another miserable day here with that horrid light rain that soaks everything. We had that all day yesterday too. The ground is all soaking again and snap crackles and pops when you walk across it.

I have to go up the shop for my loaf today and they still hav'nt got my asprin so must ring the docs first.

The mistletoe was taken from actual mistletoe leaves which I had pressed last year and pressed them into the clay and cut around them. The colour just happened to be in the box of colours oh bought me for Christmas and as soon as I saw it I thought Mistletoe leaves.

Well OH slept ok last night and seems much better in himself but his tummy is still a bit 'unstable' so best not to go out today. We really need to go and sort our ISAs out but maybe tomorrow. Just tried to do it over the phone but he has to do mine as I can't hear on the phone and we got nowhere with the explanations for that as young man needed to ask me the security questions and OH was not allowed to ask me them for him so full stop. OH told him we would re-invest elsewhere. :-D And is now trying to find another way of doing it.

Gill its ok we are hear to take your stresses as shared will help you. You can moan to us if you wish and we will help if we can. You must eat even if its only small amounts or just a mouthfull. Your tummy needs something to work on. I really think you should get in touch with SS and see if they can help. I don't think any of this should have happened in the first place.

Don't worry about commenting on the posts as we all understand. <3 <3 <3

Sending love ........and (((hugs)))

Hi gill sorry to hear about the panic attack, hopefully now you have sorted the doseage out it will help your anxiety.

The bank probably don't have time to sort out your account or it may be something they are not allowed to do. When the money went in (and how long a time are we talking?), Did you pay it in over the counter, or did it go direct to your account from whoever paid it out (DSS?). Or did you transfer the money on line from Sandra's account to yours. Whichever way you did it, there should be a traceable trail. Do you bank on line? I think you are going to have to do some estimating because it depends how far you are going back and you will have no record of money you drew out of your account whether it was for Sandra's use or your own.
It is predictable that whatever you say is Sandra's Michael will put his oar in and say that it is not enough.
Is there anyone in your area who advertises advocacy help?

Ignore Michael, you could counter accuse that he is just trying to get hold of her money and he has no legal rights whatsoever. Do not let him frighten you with the police, you have to stand up to bullies so if he says he will report you to the police tell him you are seeing a solicitor if he gets cross with Sandra for phoning you.

9 o'clock was possibly a bit late for them to call in if they then had to drive back to Leeds but they should be making arrangements to bring Sandra to see you.

And you need to get your phone fixed or replaced or you will miss Sandra's calls.

Hope you can find a solution to the problems anyway. Someone else on here might have other suggestions.

:-) <3

Afternoon all,
Ros had a lovely day out with four other ladies. She didn't get a free ticket. It cost

I did have a good old chin wag with Jane yesterday. Nice to hear from her, and that she is getting along alright. She said she can't stand the taste of wine anymore and has turned to Bristol Cream Sherry. (MOTHERS RUIN) lol lol

Dark horrible day here, when re we going to get some decent weather. ??

Vera you certainly seem to have your share of problems. I hope your OH is felling little better today. I can't remember what you said caused your back problem.But as you know I haven't kept up with everything.

Mel, I remember years ago, I caught sight of a Barn Owl in my headlights sitting on a field gate post. As the road was very quiet, and no traffic, I sat for a good 10 minutes looking at him/her, and it didn't more at all.

Gill, with all that's going on at the moment, it's no wonder you are getting these panic attacks. You must try to relax, and get LEGAL ADVISE A.S.A.P. Go to Citizens Advice, who will be much cheaper than a Solicitor.

Ros is just back from Stitchery do. So will close and catch up again soon. xxxx

The trouble with Citizens advice is that they lost a lot of their funding and I believe don't operate in all areas if at all.

Jane I believe that chemo causes a metallic taste in your mouth therefore the tanin in wine will taste unpleasant. Enjoy your sherry or Baileys if that is still ok to drink.

Gill if you do on line banking and you know Sandra's bank details (when she gets her new card) you can do a bank transfer from your account to hers. Where does Michael get his ideas from (other than wanting to a) wind you up and b) get some money out of you. I am pretty positive that you don't have to pay Sandra rent. what a truly unpleasant and ignorant man he is. I suspect they are finding it is costing them more to keep Sandra than they expected.

Afternoon All,

A few showers this morning so my car is mucky again now. We were up early and they were quick and efficient getting OH's x-ray done at the hospital so we went to a hotel nearby and had breakfast there instead of having lunch out today. We both said we were glad we didn't work anymore and have to battle the city rush hour traffic which was awful. How you are supposed to be in the right lanes on multi lane islands when all the white arrows have worn off and traffic surrounds you I don't know.

Gill I'm so sorry you had those panic attacks as I know how terrifying they can be and you can feel so dreadful you think you are going to die. I was given Diazepam to take in an emergency, but managed to cope without them, although it was nice to know they were there if needed. Food could sometimes seem to trigger them with me, especially in the evening, which is why I totally stopped eating after teatime, (which is better for you anyway). I stopped drinking any alcohol and I only have decaf tea now as they are stimulants. I hope the counselling call helps you.

What a mess! The bank wouldn't be resourced to do jobs that they expect you to do yourself. They even charge if you lose and need replacement paperwork. I don't understand why you don't have a note of Sandra's account number and details so unspent money could be returned to her? Didn't she get statements, a cheque book or any letters from her bank that had her bank account and sort code on? You obviously realise now why you should never muddle another adult's money with your own and to keep records to avoid risk of accusations. At least you are attempting to work out what is Sandra's money, but whatever you do keep your calculations safe somewhere and don't throw them away after. It seems when Sandra became an adult you carried on with things as if she was still a child and since she's been an adult no-one has had legal authority to manage her finances on her behalf. I don't understand why you wouldn't formalise things to protect both Sandra and yourself. If you had had POA for her and kept records as required by a POA, no-one else could have taken control of her bank account from you, even if she had moved elsewhere and in which case, if money is the motivator, none of this may have happened if no-one else could touch her bank account or make any other financial decisions for her. :-S I don't have any idea what any rent position would be, but it's another reason to get professional advice.

Mel your Mistletoe pendants are nice and that green is just the perfect leaf colour for them isn't it. Those moments when you see something like that Barn Owl are magical aren't they.

AnnG that strange thing with your hubby sounds like what I had with the shakiness so maybe it was a bug after all.

Our garden bin has arrived and I think we can squeeze it down the side of the bungalow on the front with the others and be out of sight which is good. Now we need to get some numbers to put on it.

I'd better get my things ready to visit my friends tomorrow now and I must see if I can find a birthday card for OH tomorrow. Men's cards all seem to be beer mugs, football, gardening, cars or golf!!! lol. It takes me ages to find a nice one. :-D

I just missed your post Gill and think you may be right that her old bank account is likely to have been closed by now. You may be right about them sending you txts on her behalf too so you won't know what the position really is. It is all very worrying.

Oh Gill, I do feel so sorry for you. I am wary of suggesting much to you as I don’t want to give you wrong advice but I really do think you need professional help to sort this mess out. Could you do a bit of research online to see if there is any way you can free or means tested legal advice? Try not to get upset by Michael’s bully boy tactics. Accusations of stealing Sandra’s money and threats of the police coming round sound like harassment to me. Perhaps you could talk to the police yourself. Keep a note of dates and times of phone calls and what is said, just in case you need it later. As for you paying Sandra rent, words fail me. It’s certainly immoral of him to suggest it, but you need to find out the legal position. It may be different depending on whether you are joint tenants or tenants in common. Keep your chin up. It’s not long now till your phone chat on the 9th and you can come on here anytime and get things off your chest. If nothing else we can provide a listening ear.

I like your mistletoe pendants Mel. The leaf colour is just right and they are just that little bit different. How lovely to see the barn owl. Outside of aviaries and zoos I’ve only once seen one. That flew across in front of my car and frightened the life out of me till I realised what it was. It was so ghostly.

I hope T. Is feeling less shaky now AnnG and that your arm is not so sore now. I hope Mandy’s back is a lot easier as well.

Enjoy your sherry Jane, or Baileys if that’s your tipple today. I’m just going to have a wine while I finish off dinner which should be ready about 7. It’s a beef casserole tonight and I’ve done double so it will do for tomorrow as well.

OH and I are both much better today and went down town for our coffee with the “gang” - 10 of us turned up today. The three men there went off to another table and we 7 ladies put the world to rights. I got an apologetic email with the correct attachment from the physio people so I have been very good and done my exercises. I’ll have another go at them this evening.

I’d better get on with finishing off this dinner. OH doesn’t know yet but the gravy in the casserole is beef stock with about half the bottle of his favourite red wine (cabalie) ;-)

Evening all,

Oh Gill you need help as the others have said ,there's no way you can sort all this on you own .
Sandra must have had some sort of statements from the bank if she had an account ,it would show what money was moved from her account to another .
I can't see why you need to pay Sandra rent .i wonder where he got idea from perhaps you need to point out to him that Sandra still needs to pay her share of any bills .

Mel i love the mistletoe pendants the green is just the right colour and i think they would be nice as a brooch too.
How lovely to see the barn owl ,i've seen them in the zoo and when we were out in the car a few years ago we saw one sitting on a gate post in a field .

Ann that's the trouble with a white car one wet day and drive out and it needs cleaning again .
I hate driving where there all these lanes and your not sure which lane you need to be in , it's a devil of a job to get over ,i use to love driving and would drive any where but not now .
What are you doing tomorrow with the ladies ? are you still beading ?

AnnG i hope your OH is feeling better now and that he doesn't pass it on to you what ever is was ,hope your arm is feeling less sore now .

Frank i'm glad your tooth ache has gone and that Ros enjoyed her day out ,how is little Biggles it must be nice to have him for a bit of company he sounds a little dear .
Vera i'm glad your both feeling better and managed to get out for coffee with your friends .
That's good that you have got the attachment from the physio people in the end ,hopefully the exercises will help your back pain .

My side is so much better today ,we walked up to the bank and boots and then went to Aldi to get a bit of shopping ,it was really busy today .
Tomorrow we're off with son and DIL to Makro to have a stock up with loo rolls ,kitchen rolls ,soap powder ,coffee ,t bags and meat ,we usually go every two or three months ,we buy for son and DIL too which helps them out and saves a them a bit .

Oh it's good that the backs are improving and that Vera and Mandy have managed to get out and about today. It's good you have the right attachment for your physio exercises now Vera. I hope they are easy to do!

Mandy I am carrying on with the daydreamer rope I started a couple of weeks ago. If you google it you can see what it's like. It's a nice easy pattern, just repeating 3 rows so I can natter and not make mistakes. You can also use up small amounts of different coloured beads left over from other things you've made which is handy.

Oh Ann it is pretty and handy as you say for using up left over beads looks like you can make them any length you want too.

The daydreamer rope is very nice Ann we will want to see yours when its done please. What colours are you using?

I'm pleased you liked my mistletoe pendants and yes the green colour is just right. You knwo me I like the natural things in jewelry and other crafts. the leaves were printed from leaves I pressed last year to get the right TEXTURE.

Well I am off now so I hope you all get a good nights sleep tonight, sweet dreams.