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Again there is a programme on tv about domestic violence against women. A deplorable subject and the men that do it should spend time in jail .......B U T ...... What about us men that suffered it ?? It does happen but nothing ever said.... Malc

Yes there is Malc but is not as common but it does go on...

Yes I know men who have suffered it to Malc it happens a lot. I was in the pub the other day and a blokes wife came in and give him a right wallop. Davex

The programme is specific to domestic violence related to football and it seems that many women are suffering right now when men get angry about the World Cup. At the moment they are discussing a 15 yar old boy attacked by his step father. I've read many articles about men who suffer domestic violence which I also deplore. Gwynne

I am now watching this on TV , its totally unacceptable that men use football and or alcohol to justify violence. I do agree with you Malc about Men who are victims. How ever many are too embarrased or ashamed to report any violence that they have experienced. Lets here from you blokes out there. What would you do if you were a victim of violence? Ang x

I bet any money , when he sobers up the woman takes the stepdad back....

Itt is a pity about the men - they must feel ashamed to have to admit it......what some poor people have to put up with in life is unimaginable.....

I was a victim of domestic violence myself during my second marriage . That was one of the reasons for the break up. Embarrassing yes Me 6ft3 ex biker and karate trained Her 5ft 2

I'm sorry I'm watching it and it's blaming football for the agression build up in the monsters that batter women..... excuse me but isn't it more that they are tossers and have DRUNK too much alcohol? A man who will hit a woman on a regular basis doesn't need a REASON, just alcohol normally!! Let's not blame football please!! The increase may be because pubs show the football but its not football's fault!! Malc - they don't show it because its a minority.... but you are right its not just women that suffer!

The biggest problem with domestic violence is that : a) quite often its not witnessed by anyone so is one person's word against another b) because of the emotional ties of the people concerned, it is often true that the victim withdraws allegations in the hope that the perpetrator will change. It's hard for people to break the cycle and escape. nell

or c) the victim withdraws charges as they are scared witless of the outcome and the person getting off with it and the repercussions that will bring!!

It takes a big man to admit that-(no pun intended), well done! You escaped, (so did I). x

My solicitor has a file in her possession which my ex is aware of and hasnt argued with or denied. I ever loose contact with my kids it gets opened

in the pub where i work there is a little woman who is about 4'9' her husband is a polio sufferer and walks with crutches and she belts him on a regular basis, when someone asked him why he puts up with it he says its because he loves her and wouldnt dream of hitting her back. It must be really embarrasing for him and he is a lovely bloke but all the other men call him a wimp. OH and i have been married for 16 years and we have had some real good rows and both said things aimed at hurting the other but he would never hit me, whenever i get a bit fed up and start wondering if the grass is greener etc. I think of that couple and realize how lucky i am sue c x

Thank God this is now taken seriously. It wasn't that many years ago that the Wife was seen as the Husband's property to deal with however he liked and the Police wouldn't get involved. Violent vicious bas**rds will find any excuse and should be locked up. Whatever sex they are.

Malc - good for you!! Gwen - d'ya know.... I always said its not the bruises and pain that destroyed me, it was the words!! Can't say I am free of it as freaked a little a while back cos I thought I saw him in a restaurant. But I do know that no man will ever belittle me like that again!! xx

Any type of Domestic violence is deplorable , on our local bus it says 2 women every week are killed in this country to domestic violence alarming isnt it? Davex

Malc only a real man would have behaved like you did sue c x

Sometimes the words hurt more than the punches

I 2nd that Malc xx