Genealogy Chat

If you think about the millions and millions and millions of human beings whose remains are knocking around in the earth I can't see what the big deal is with having to share with someone else. Think of the millions of people who have no grave to visit because their loved ones were missing believed killed in war or in the concentration camps. People who die live on in our memories, not as a corpse in the ground. I rarely visit my dad;s grave as there doesn't seem any point. He is in my dna and in my heart and my thoughts.

Agree entirely Helen little Nell. People do recact to grief differently though, depending on circumstances.

I'm well miffed. My gx6 grandfather was buried in the grounds of Romsey Abbey in 1842 - this is not just heresay, I have a copy of a newspaper report . He was buried in the Abbey grounds, not because he was a religous man, or a man of 'means' - but because of his size!!! (on the large size - nearly 7 foot tall and weighing over 40 stone). The 'commoners' burial ground is about half a mile a way up a hill and they couldn't get him up there. I know my gran and great aunt saw his large (to suit his weight)memorial stone standing in the 1970's. I went there 10 years ago - to find it had been incorporated into a path! Now it is illegible. The most insulting thing was, on asking a 'guide' where I might find out where his stone and burial originally were, to be told he was a commoner and wasn't buried there! I pointed out that his stone was just outside - on the path - and was told I was mistaken!! Well, this means my gran and g aunt were wrong, the newspapers were wrong, and the (according to the newspaper) 2,000 people at his funeral were wrong!!! maggie