Genealogy Chat

I contacted someone who had a rellie in his Tree he gave me permission to view it and I did the same, the upshot was he sent me a Gedcom of the rellie concerned and the family line, I had never sent anyone a gedcom before so asked him how to do it , the upshot is I sent him the whole Tree not realising , and he has put all on his Tree even my family who are not related at all, including living relatives . The problem is now whenever I or contacts that are rellies try to find any matches his lot keep coming up, you find yourself starting to get excited then realising its him again. I did email him and he seemed to think its the fault of the GR contacting system. I have just asked him to kindly delete my lot , if no joy what can I do thanks

report him to to GR it states Please remember to ask permission of living relatives you add to your tree. He doesn't have permission

thanks Linda , but what about the others , I have both my family and my husbands in the same FTM thats why he got the lot , but I dont want him using my family at all, they are not related to him in any way .

There's a sense in which the historical detail is public property, so you're in weaker territory there. However, I should have thought that, with the way the GR trees work, if he doesn't have permission to include the living people, the historical ones who aren't related would inevitably fall off when he removes the ones that he isn't allowed to include? - assuming GR enforces the permissions thing. Christine PS - hope not too many people read the garbled post I put up first time around!

still report him! he doesnt't have your permission I can not for the life of me understand why anyone should want to add a whole load of people who aren't related to them!! what's the point?? Linda

I would do the decent thing and warn him you are going to report him though.

thanks Christine and Linda, its no wonder he has a huge Tree I wonder how many are actual rellies. I dont mind any of my contacts using my names except for living ones I always say they can and I always ask if its okay to use theirs, after all thats how to get hopefully new contacts, but when you keep seeing all your names it gets very galling.

I would do that Paul I am waiting for his reply , and then if he doesn take them off will tell him thanks

It happens, it's happened to me! Some people just seem to want to add the whole lot, even the far distant in- law lines. It must be something about seeing all the links including those not in their family. I think if you can get them to remove the living ones the others on your husbands side should disappear. Heather

you gave him the names ffs,its not as if hes raided them off you,no matter how it happened.

Hmmm, I think if he actually deletes them using the GR tree system he would have to delete each person separately, so he is more likely to delete them using his family tree program on his computer then upload a new GEDCOM file. In which case he could delete just the living if he wants to and everybody else would stay on. Kate.

yes I know that Alter, but I had not realised it was all my names, anyway its surely only common courtesy to ask if its okay to use all, I certainly would, but then I have manners.

Darn!

I do find it hard to understand why anybody would wish to populate their tree with strangers. Mine is approaching 1,800 but every one is either a blood relation or married to one. Every name on my tree will hopefully attract somebody who shares my bloodline. Not so with this person. I find this thought rather sinister. What would they do with such information?

I find it hard to understand too Paul , Anne I wish I knew how to make a file of just the names I wanted to share I dont know how. Must go to cook some Dinner I am starving back later thanks for all suggestions ,

I have always been very generous in sharing information figuring that I would not have got so far if others were not very generous with me. However yesterday while searching another site I found my entire family, with details that show it could only have come from me. Trouble is, I know that I have never had contact with the poster who has over 100,000 people on his tree! There was a comment on the information that it was well researched! I know my bit was and I know that there is no way this person could research that many people himself, well or otherwise! I will be very careful in future just who I share information with and how much of it I share. Trouble is when you make a contact it is so exciting that you just want to share it all! Like you I have had problems with living relatives being put on this site by a person who obtained the information from someone else who obtained it from me. After frequent messages asking him to remove them without a reply, I contacted genes who removed them for me. Christine in NZ

thats terrible Christine I agree I love to share normally it can sometimes help as the more on the site the more likely someone will match . This man has about 8000 I believe I wonder how many he has actually researched ??? I will give him a few days owing to the holiday weekend he oculd be away, and then if nothing will contact GR.

I never send a gedcom, mainly because I don't know how to do it but with my experience of others I am not sure that I want to learn! I message them my email addy and when they reply send a print out of the part of the tree that they are interested in. And I still get caught with family members appearing on the net! On each occasion it has not been the person I sent the info to, but they have obviously passed it on to 'name collectors'. I am not sure how you stop that. Give the person a chance to remove your information themselves, then contact genes and they will remove it for them! Christine in NZ

This happened to me thro GR and I was horrified to find me and my mum on his tree (both still living the last time I looked) - it has taken me 2 years to get as far as I have and he just whacked it on! I asked him to delete those living and thankfully he did. Good luck, I hope the person concerned removes your details.

thanks Christine I wish I hadnt now, and Lindy thats a cheek isnt it ??? If I want a contact to have the info I always ask if its okay to pass it on , I would never just do it .He had better take it off.