Genealogy Chat

Hi. I actually live in stoke on trent. Where abouts was she. maybe i can help.
What was her name and where abouts did she live.
Nita

I would like to add to what rose said about being careful when contacting your half siblings.

As I explained a couple of weeks ago, my circumstances almost exactly mirror yours. I contact my half sibling though friends reunited when I came accross that person accidently. On the initial contact I only asked have you siblings and named who they were, as I knew they knew nothing about me, I had email back saying yes they did and I then was extremely careful how explained that I was their sister......I am now in contact but it hasn't worked out how I hoped, its been an extremely emotional ride for all of us especially w hen our sister died last year very suddenly, I was devasted. But at the same time, I felt privaleged to have known her for even a short time, as I had only knew her for a year.


What I am trying to say is be prepared, go into open minded and don't regret anything no matter how it turns out. I can't explain too much on these boards about my own experience but would be glad to do so in email if you think it would help in the way you handle contacting your family and siblings.

Good luck Nicola

Sorry - I should have added that I sent a pm about ER look ups to Rose
Regards, Liz

Have PM,d Rose explaining how to ask Wayne Tracey for the look up

dear wayne tracy

could you look up an electoral roll name for me
the name is george G banner 1938 and the area is in crosby mersyside I know he is on the 2009 roll
could you get me the address for me

thank you

rose banner

Good Luck; I have a similar situation looking for my half brother (my dad sowed his seeds elsewhere).... and I'm an only child so the thought of a half sibling is gr8 news.

Keep us all updated.
Jo

Good luck, please keep us updated
Kind regards, Liz

Tracey provided me with an address, and I've just been to Stoke-on-Trent to hand-deliver a carefully worded neutral letter containing my phone number and email address.

We'll see what happens (if anything)...

Thanks sooooo much to everyone who helped me with this search!

Stefan,

Was Jean able to help you? On 192.com your mother is only listed the years 2002-04 and 2008, but Jean can only help with 2009.

Rose

If your messages have not been opened it is more than likely that his email address has changed

jax

Thanks Madmeg, I've now sent a request to Tracey.

Thanks for the awesome info, Rose. Yeah, I realise that first contact could be tricky, especially due to the circumstances of her leaving my Dad. I was planning on written contact first, if possible, then waiting to see if she replies. I'd rather contact my Mum than my half-brothers if at all possible, as my half-brothers may be unaware of my existence.

Stefan,

Just a thought, but do be careful contacting your half-siblings. Could be they don't know about you.

Joan Allen, who frequents this site, run myfolks.net and I know she recommends using a third party to contact missing relatives.

It's crucial that initial contact is handled carefully.

Rose

Stefan,

Looks like there was another son born 1989. Will PM the details.

Rose

Here's Tracey's thread:

http://www.genesreunited.co.uk/boards.asp?wci=thread&tk=1231191

I think Jean only has up to 2009, WayneTracey has 2010.

Thanks Chris, I had looked at the Salvation Army, but wanna see if I can do it for free before resorting to handing out much-needed cash.

Thanks Liz, Jean did a search for me earlier today, but nothing showed up :(
Is it worth trying Wayne Tracey too, or do they just use the same lists?

If you go to the trying to find board, Wayne Tracey offers to do electoral roll look ups - also Jean on Records office offers to do look ups. Just click on their names and send them a message with the details you have.
Good luck,
Liz

I know it will cost , but Salvation Army offers a tracing service - look on line.

Your welcome, sorry I can't be of more help....Your circumstances very much echo mine, down to the same year she left when I was a year old.

I hope you find what you are looking for and if you need any help then I will try if I can.

Nicola

Thanks Jax, yes, I've tried all of those

Thanks Rose, I've sent a electoral roll lookup request to Jean Brown. Hopefully this will give me an address.

Thanks Nicola, I did a BMD search and found that she remarried in 1983, and had a son in October 1984, I have the name of her husband and son, and so her new married name. Her son has a GenesReunited account, and I've sent several PMs over the last 5-6 years , but they are all still 'unread'.

She walked out on my Dad in '76/'77 when I was about 3-4 years old (and my sister was 1-2 years old), and my Dad bought us up. My Dad doesn't like to talk about her, and there has been no contact since then.

Obviously I don't want to put too many details on the public forums, but would be happy to provide all the information I have in a PM to anyone who thinks they can help.