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There are some very sad stories here!! My mother is a nasty piece of work so I know how hurtful comments can be, I was always told that i wasn't wanted because I wasn't a boy!! She'd had my sister and I messed up her idea of a perfect family!! The fact that she went on to have a still birth AFTER my brother was born really goes to show she would never have stopped at 2 anyway!! :O(

Been thinking about this an i think the ones that are formost are June4th 1972 mum was in hoospital dad returned early hours i was five monthes preganant and in bed i called out an dad said talk in the morning, at 6am he came in and told me she had died,,,,,,,,,,,, 2nd one was 3rd june 1976,dad lived with us at eigth in the evening Paul went to see if hewanted a cup of tea,he came down an said 'he's dead' mum was 51 dad 59

Little things have hurt me over the years, but I can't think of any that continue to hurt. How lucky am I? My heart goes out to all of you with sad stories. Susan

When I phoned to see how my premature baby daughter was - I had been sent home when she was 2 days old, and weighed 1 lb 10 oz , and I went to see her the next morning, not able to hold her or touch her (32 years ago and different treatment then). I was told not to stay and watch her have an injection she needed, so went home. Phoned before I dished up lunch, partner and his brother needed feeding, and when I phoned the nurse said 'Oh she died half an hour after you left' . No-one had phoned me to let me know. Many other things over the years sadly - each barbed comment cuts to the heart and they all stay locked up somewhere to wear down your self-esteem. Some cruel evil and thoughtless people around.

I need time to think lol!!

When my daughter was 20 months old and in hospital suffering a severe asthma attack, at about 3o'clock in the morning the doctor said there is nothing more we can do for her. My heart sank, I was beside myself. But she did pull through and now she is a 21 year fit and heathly adult. On a lighter note, in the morning the nurse said to me, I didn't need to go the the canteen for breakfast (I wasn't about to dash off anyway), as my baby had nearly died I was entitled to tea and toast from the ward kitchen. I don't know if it was delayed shock but I just couldn't stop laughing, I thought it so funny, food was the last thing on my mind. I suppose she was just trying to be kind. Sue

Not actually said to me....I overheard my mother-in-law to be and my mum chatting over a cuppa, a couple of weeks before my wedding. They were discussing how long it would be before we split & divorced, they both said within a year. Still together after 16 years. When we picked up the last boxes from his mum's house she said to me 'I'll keep his bed...he might need it' Lol. It's definatly mothers and mil's that do it to us. Pen -x-

A consultant , while examining my 5yr old daughter during a routine follow up appt. after eye surgery, asked me how long she had had a heart murmur. I was totally shocked, as we'd never been told that before. She then told me that I was a terrible mother, and that my daughter could drop dead any moment. My daughter was then referred for an urgent scan, and after a sleepless, very emotional night, the scan revealed absolutely nothing abnormal. Strangely, the consultant was unavailable to speak to me then... Sharon xx

My Mum died in June and a couple of months ago, the women who Mum and Dad fostered for all of one month ( they did keep in touch, maybe every 6/9 months over the years, until she had children and decided that my Mum and Dad would be good grandparents and she took to turning up on a monthly basis) turned round to me and said ' I loved your Mum more than you! and she was the only Mum I ever knew' ' You and your children get all the sympathy and me and mine get none' I'm sure my Mum was the only Mum I ever knew as well, and as for getting sympathy I didn't realise it was a competition Joanne

I've had a lot of bad things said to me but doesn't happen anymore which is good. :-)

it's over :(

No he made up for it BC ....he was a special person.xxxxx

I have just read some very sorry sad stories on this thread and feel so sad for those people I must have had an exceptional mum in all her years I never recall her saying one bad word to me even when I deserved it and I did sometimes Bless you mum xxxxxx

Ah well Wenders, I suppose one out of two aint bad:-) XXX BC

Oh BC, i had the most loving dad..anyone could of had, still miss him ((22yrs))

My heart goes out to each and every one of you who has been hurt. I feel so privileged to have had a loving mother and father. XXX BC

Vanessa, just what my mother constantly said to us......if it was up to me none of you would have been here.xxxxx ((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))

Hyah thanks for your comments and support tis appreciated .... will never forget what she said .... still brings me to tears when i think about it ... and it was said on 4th March ... i feel like i am making progress in getting my life back and then am knocked sideways again .... would not wish this on anyone even her xxxx

god there are some really nasty people out there!!! and some very sad stories coming thru ... hugs to everyone !! ((((((xxxx))))))))) JIlly x

I agree Rosie, this so called friend was an idiot. How can anyone say there is a time limit on that kind of grief. Don't listen to it. You take all the time you need. Take Carex :o)