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This is the tenth day and after 7 days of antibiotics he does not appear to have improved. Still coughing, aching and getting weaker. Trouble is he lives alone and with my health dare not have him here. OH has been nearly every day on mercy runs and tidying up. Spoke to my Dr this morning and asked if he thought son would be free of infection by now to come here - he nearly had a fit and forbade me anywhere near him. Son asked me to contact his Dr and after discussion with nurse a dr will go to visit him today.

I feel guilty can't have him here, feel guilty OH has the burden of both of us.
Sometimes growing old ain't much fun.

Do you know whether it's a type of flu, or an infection such as bronchitis? If flu, then antibiotics won't be any use.

A Dr seeing him is the best thing.It is a worry for you though.

She said it was probably swine flu - he had all the symptons of it - I checked on net. I was surprised he got medication - I know they prescribe tamiflu or something similar but it only works within the first 48 hours. He should be showing some improvement after ten days.

Oh Chris ,
i know how you feel it's horrible isnt it when you cant help your children
but if you was to have him at yours or you go there you will suffer for it in the end, i suffer with Asthma C.O.A.P. and cant ever have the ch ildren / g/children here if they have a cold as straight away i get it then im in bed or worse hospital .
Dont feel guilty Chris your son knows that if you could you would look after him and it sounds as though your OH is doing a grand job ...what would we do without them ...
take care and try not to worry to much
Hazelx

Chris, I know how you must feel. Any mother would feel the same. It doesn't make things better that you cannot have any physical contact with him, but you know how it would affect your own health.
Are you able to talk to him by phone.
My OH has to take the helm when I am indisposed also, neither of us is getting any younger, and a few months ago, he had a minor heart attack, so it also bothers me.
I know what it is, you want to feed him up with that nice big juicy goose that you have waiting. LOLOL.
By the way, since driving around during this holiday, I have come across two sources where I could have got one from. One was a little smallholding person, and the other was a Poulterer, and licensed to sell Game. Both are on the trip to my favourite garden centre, so have put both in my little black book.
Take Care Chris, and please try not to worry too much about your son. You do not want to make yourself poorly aswell.
All the Best
Julia in Derbyshire

Chris, see if you can get some "Quinine Tabs" I had that For Malaria.It might work for that. **M**.

Thank you - at the moment OH has had to go out, so I am indulging in a little weep and worry as he gets upset if sees me crying. We are both worried about him. Have come to the stage I wish they would take him into hospital if only for a few days whilst he is looked after 24/7 but there is such a demand on the hospitals perhaps he is not ill enough. Son had viral pneumonia/pleurisy some 25 years ago and viral bronchitis about 10 yrs. So I worry - so what is new - all mothers worry until the day comes they can worry no more!

I had swine flu before last christmas Chris, it was worse than I could imagine, the Tamiflu i started about four days in, may have shortened the worst of it but I had the cough for weeks and felt absolutely drained for several months after that. It really is a nasty thing so will take some time for your son to recover. Try not to feel guilty, there really is nothing you can do except get the medical help, even if you could see him , the way he will be feeling he probably just wants to curl up alone.

Hope he starts to feel better soon.

Dr's been - still has chest infection - different antibiotics. Did not know he had an infection as well. Maybe these will work, fingers crossed.

Oh good lets hope he gets well soon.:))
Might take a day or two to kick in though.

Sorry that he is no better Chris and I can guess how you must be feeling. Your OH has done a lot for him and kept him going with food that you have prepared, you have done your bit. If you caught it your OH would have twice the problem and not be able to go to check up on your son as much. Hopefully the second lot of medication will knock it on the head. If it is the chest infection dragging him down the antibs should work now, hopefully stronger ones.

Keeping fingers crossed that these antibiotics
do the trick Chris ..
Hope he feels better very soon
Hazelx

Chris ....SNAP...my son was the same down to a T

It took two lots of antibioctics and an inhaler but my son is asmatic as well......Let him take these for 3 days and if NO improvement get the doctor again...He must drink coz it helps the antibioctic get round the system....

Now as for you ...LOOK AFTER YOU ,..your son will be in terrible trouble if he passes this to you then you will both be crying. Yes its hard when they have been so ill again my son to a T ..nearly lost him to pneumonia some 20 years ago at christmas to!

Hospital is NOT the place for him ..he will probably get something else which will make his rocovery harder and longer

Look after you and I,m sure it will be fine ...sending you a
((((hug))))

Thank you all - I know I cannot be near him or him here until he is noninfectious even the first day when he thought he had a stinking cold was 'unless this clears up Friday I will not be home, don't need you in ICU again' . It is just so hard and the one who is bearing the brunt is OH, he is my rock, he is the rock for all of us. He has to stay clear or we are all up the swanee!

Kemp - he is a bit wheezy at times too and has a ventolin inhaler. He is drinking plenty of lucozade and flavoured water apart from tea. We know he has gone through 4 of large lucozade and 6 of large water in past week, so he has plenty of fluids.

I checked the new antibiotics on net and they are prescribed for chronic bronchitis and pneumonia so they must be strong and hopefully kick in quickly.

Oh Chris, I know just how you feel. Our eldest daughter is just the same. Started 11 days ago. After 4 days the doctor went to see her and said it was swine flu and something else but not sure what. To late for tamiflu but had antibiotics for chest infection. She is so weak and up to today not eaten anything, but had lucozade and water. She has lost so much weight.Her legs wont support her she is so weak. For health reasons I havent been to see her and also feel very guilty, but had her 7 year old staying here to keep her away from it. I dont know how long they carry the infection but daughter is seeing doctor again tomorrow.
I pray your son soon feels better and look after yourself x

Oh Sylvia - you and me together. At least we have'nt any children to worry about.

Hope she will begin to pick up soon. Perhaps son will listen to Mummy and have the flu jab next year! Like your dau he is very weak and apart from homemade veg soups and home cooked ham both of which I knew he would nibble. Tonight when OH was sorting him out he asked him to go to chippie and get him a fish so apparently he ate it.

There are those who are going down like ninepins for best part of 2 weeks and those are the ones apparently with swine flu - at least two others about which are not so severe.

Take care of yourself and hopefully our patents will be up and about soon and then we will have our goose!!!

Laddo had it never seen him so ill he spent 9 days in bed and 5 days on is still weak and not back to normal self. Never known o much food in house he normally ges through it so quickly. The onething he is having a lot of is milk will look like a cow soon. Tiddler had it as well but not a bad.

Dr told me to get them to eat they could have whateve rthey wanted as long as they ate and 1st sign of wheezing or trouble breathing up casualty.

seems to be so much of it about

At least mine is a grown man Dawnie, even more worrying when it is children. It is a nasty flu reminds me of the Asian one in late 1957 - I was pregnant with his sister. Hope the kiddies are on the up soon.

hope everyone will soon be back to normal, i had swine flu couple of weeks ago, my own faulty id boasted i didnt need flu injection as id only had flu in my teens twice , ive a reduced thingy but managed luckily to keep out of hosp even tho i was rattling, bit worried then as it sounded like the death rattle but i managed, more concerned about 24 yr old daughter i could see how ill i waS BY LOOKING at her bless her she is at day 4 now just waiting for a decent time to phone xx good luck everyone and thinking of you xxx oh thingy was immune system xx