General Chat

Sally that's a good point and thank you for bringing the subject up. I hadn't given it a thought. I've never helped anyone that way and I am so glad I haven't.

Thanks for letting us know.
Janet

As a matter of interest...............when someone is trying to trace living relatives who have been adopted or simply moved and no contact can be made, are there any other ways of contacting them?

Just thinking it might be good to include some information on starting points on this thread.

If not.....................ignore me:))))

Many ways, Kitty. Dozens at least :-)

Well I thought I'd ask.................I wouldn't know where to start.

I know I have some cousins who never knew they were part of a large family, but would never dream of finding them to let them know.........they might be thrilled.........or devastated that their loved one had not been totally honest with them.

Either way, it's not for me to open a can of worms.

I saw this thread earlier & I've been thinking about it since.
I feel very uncomfortable when I see requests about living people.
There have been a lot of requests recently from th same person on records asking for marriage look ups fpr the 1940's right up to th 60's. There is another one up now & this thread made me think about why this same person needs so many 'recent' marriages?

I know I have contributed to this thread, but now is my time for evening meal etc. I'm not ducking out of it, and would be very pleased if it was still current on the boards tomorrow.
Have a good evning all, bless you.
Julia in Derbyshire

Just looked Chrisa and see they have put names and dates of births on there as well..................worrying I think.

I've seen that one also Kitty.
The one thats troubling me more is very vague. The same gentleman has posted rather a lot recently that I have seen.

omg, electrol roll aswell............ :(
xx

There are lots when you actually look through the threads............all perfectly legal though, but I wish people would stop and think before leaping in and giving other peoples personal information out on a public board.

good advise sally
ive worked in a school at midday and had to be responsible for the whole school of kids, we were always on our guard,
it awful to think of this happeneing,
poor lady hope shes safe

Jonathon..............I was going to post to say there was too much, but hopefully the GR team will keep an eye on them.

If I keep posting I'll get chased off and told to go back to general:)

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I haven't heard from Genes yet Alan. I didn't voice a concern to them about a particular thread myself, just that in general maybe some guidelines were needed as to what information regarding living people was allowed to be posted on here. If you aren't allowed to name living people on your tree without that person's permission I see no reason for that not to apply to threads as well personally.
I did tell them about this thread I've started just so that they can come and see the real concerns that I and others have regarding this.
Hopefully they will have a think and introduce some guidelines at the least.
I'd hate to be the person who out of the best intentions helped to cause a tragedy.

Yes Carrie I think giving general 'pointing in the direction' of help and advice is the best way. That way if the people are genuine then they will get the help needed through more monitored ways probably and the people with more sinister motives would be weeded out. If someone dives headlong into finding the info and just handing over a location to someone they never know what the outcome could be. After all very few of us actually know each other in real life.

HI
IT WAS ME WHO STARTED A ROW OVER A FIND MY DAD,,BECAUSE NAMES OF SIBLINGS
ALSO DETAILS.
HOW WOULD YOUR FAMILY FEEL

I ALSO USED TOO BE A DINNER LADY,
WE WOULD HAVE CHILDREN IN EMERGENCY FOSTER CARE,WE HAD TO KEEP BY OUR SIDE ALL THE TIME

Regarding Adoptions-

You need to contact a special section of Social Services or Human Services Dept or whatever they call themselves in your country.

They will contact the relevant Court and get a photocopy of the Adoption file, then make a
decision about what information, if any, they are prepared to release to you.

(Very interesting reading some of those old Adoption files)

xxxx mick

I DID SEND A MESSAGE TO GR
THE REPY
THANK YOU

I agree with everything said so far on this board and feel that emblazoning the names of the living over the internet is a terrible invasion of privacy.
My sister (who isn't into genealogy) was horrified when I told her just exactly what I could access on the internet - without help from anyone.

A friend of my daughter hasn't seen his mother since he was 5 - he doesn't even know her maiden name.
A couple of years ago, having nothing better to do, I looked up his birth, found his mother's maiden name - then found her on Friends reunited - took me all of 10 minutes!
Strikes me, she wouldn't mind being 'found', BUT it's up to him if he wants to see her again - and certainly not up to me to 'bring them together'.
If he really wanted to know his mother's maiden name, he would get himself a full birth certificate.
Living people who want to be 'found' will let it be known, otherwise they should be left alone.

THERE IS ALWAYS THE SIDE THAT
IF PROBLEMS EITHER SIDE COULD BECOME
IN A SITUATION THAT IS HARD,
SOME ADOPTES SOMETIME EXPECT A
WONDERFULL SITUATION
UNFORTUNATLYY IF ONLY,,,,