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I lost my Son 3 months ago and one of the comforts me and my family get is trying to make his resting place as nice as possible, so we have all put little things on his grave for him. I put four little ceramic signs for Love, Peach, Hope and Faith. My daughter was at the grave at nine a.m. all was fine, by two p.m. that same day they were gone-stolen-who could be so mean and heartless, it makes my blood boil.

Dont know Jennifer, its very sad, a reflection of the society that we live in, I guess. Jess x

Oh Jennifer, that is so upsetting for you. These are thoughtless idiots and most probably school kids who think it's a laugh (doesn't make it any better!!). Wishing you peace and comfort. Snowdrops

How despicable. Have you thought of reporting it to the cemetary supervisor,there may have been a spate of this and maybe they can keep an eye out if they are aware theres a problem. So sorry for your loss, and now this,it makes me so angry people can be so unfeeling

It made me as mad as hell when I read this thread so cannot begin to understand how you must feel. When you feel up to it you must report the incident. Wishing you peace and comfort Gwen

Hi Jennifer I am very sorry to hear this, sadley just over a year ago I lost two of my uncles and the only place I feel at peace is to go and sit with them and put things on there graves and make them look good. Have you asked the people that look after the cemetery as they may have seen something. Hope you can get over this Best wishes Julie

Thank you everyone-I initially thought it was school kid's but my daughter was there after she had taken hers to school so I thought again, I may never find out who it was, but I get comfort in thinking my son Stephen would know.

Oh Jennifer, how awful! It's probably just kids that have no idea what it is to lose someone. Unfortunately it's a sign of the times we live in - and a lack of respect. Your son knows that you are thinking of him, and although the pots are no longer there, your feelings (as signified by them) still are! I wish you all the courage & faith you need during your period of grief. You don't 'get over it' - but you can believe that, with time, you do learn to live with it. Sarah (another who has lost a son)

Thank you Sarah-Jennifer.

What a horrible thing to do, Jennifer. If only the people who do these mindless things knew how upsetting it is, perhaps they would think again.

Sorry to hear that, there just seems to an increasing lack of respect for other people's right and property. The old saying 'The Devil makes work for idle hands' comes to mind.

Oh Jennifer, thats awful. But you can only feel sorry for the sort of people who do these things - they must have so little love in their lives its their way of kicking back. They will not be happy people all their lives.

I may put a little note by my Son's grave, asking them to return them-you never know, they may have a guilt trip and replace them where they belong.

Hi Jennifer, As if you have not been hurt enough, mindless, unfeeling idiots heap more grief upon you. My best friend was taken into hopital two weeks ago with a perforated bowel, when his 12 year old daughter went to school she was met with a barrage of.....'Hear your dads ill in hospital, hope he dies'....and do you know what, he did last Sunday. If only children could understand the pain that child is now going through, my heart is bleeding for her. Kathlyn

I have a friend who lost a child at birth, and for all I helped her and said I understood what she was going through, I did not have a clue, I only now can appreciate the raw pain she must have experienced. People are so cruel and do not realise the added grief and pain they put on other's. I just hope some day they wake up and realise what they do is wrong and soul destroying.

You poor thing. I once had a miscarriage and thought that the world had ended and didn't know how I would ever cope. I've since had 2 beautiful boys and realised how much worse life could be. I know that I don't know the extent of your pain but you have my utmost sympathy. I believe that your son is in a wonderful place and will know just how much effort you have gone to for him even though some horrid person/s have removed your efforts. Hopefully one day they will realise the magnitude of what they have done. Toni

Oh sweetie that is so so sad!! xx

I'm so sorry Jennifer. People can be so cruel. Helenxx

I cannot imagine the cemetary removing them without informing us, as we planted a little tree on Gran's grave, just for her first Christmas and they attached a little note saying you must remove this or we will have to. It was removed by my Son after Christmas and is now growing well in my back garden. But two of my children put creme eggs on Stephen's grave, it made them feel as if they were not leaving him out at Easter, for all he was 34, and they were there for a few weeks and I could not decide if I should remove them or not,but we found the empty wrappers by the grave so somebody ate them, had been on the grave for a while so dread to think what they tasted like. But that did not bother me as much.