Genealogy Chat

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Is it just me, or does anyone else find the auto replies a little rude / blunt on this site? I dont know about you, but when I spend time putting together an email with lots of information and detail in it, to receive 'this is not my relative' really deflates me. I understand the need for having them as I am sure some people get fed up with making personal replies to every message they receive, but couldnt they make them a little more pleasent? Even punctuation would do for a start! Shall we petition to genes to change them?!?!?

Yes let us do that-as I think it only takes a moment to say Sorry no connection.

Oh they are dreadful Karen and Ive written to GR about 6 times about just altering a little bit so they dont sound so abrupt or rude and they said they would pass my comments on to the web designers. I can only say contact GR and tell them the same thing. If a lot of us do it may be they will get the message.

I totally agree Karen. I try and give as much detail as i possibly can and it can take quite a while to type it out. Even if i received a pm then i just email them back saying i'm sorry that this is not a connection but hope you are successful in your research. If you want to bombard GR with emails about this then i'm in. Jen

Me too, but then I wonder why people use them. I don't as thy sound rude. Perhaps they are there for the people who are abrupt? Should there also be one saying 'can't be b***** to answer your email' Jennie

Yes

hiya, i quite agree, i find these 'so called automated replies' really rude and awful, how long does it take to post a 'sorry i dont believe we have a connection' ???? Julie

lol!! Sorry! I think the person who wrote the auto replies, and certainly the person who ''passed'' them for use on the site, should have been sacked! Merry

They are abrupt, BUT better to have that than nothing. Most people are very good and do respond, but of the ones that don't, well if you get an automated reply at least you know where you stand, and are not hanging on forever. Jay

I really dislike the 'Give me access to your Tree' one - I don't like to give access out willy-nilly unless I know there is a potential connection there.......

Yes I agree they do seem a bit rude. I had one the other day asking to look at my tree. I replied and asked who in my tree were they interested in and todate have not received a reply. Good luck to you all in your research Irene

I hate the auto reply and never use it because I think its so rude. Agree with Madaleine too about the 'can I see your tree' one.. I have really tightened up on my tree now since half of it was stolen... I dont mean that someone with a genuine connection stole it, that wouldnt have bothered me in the least as am always more than happy to share findings/certs etc. But someone with a very distant connection took not only the names of people with whom he had the distant contact but also the names of my husband and his parents and my ex and my step father... talk about wanting to plant a forest, never mind build a tree.... LOL Shaz

Call me grumpy if you like,but if i get one of the auto requests/replies i just delete them now. I tend to think that if someone can't spare two minutes to explain something,then the rest of their research will have the same principle applied. Maybe i have lost out,but my research is proved to my satisfaction,shared with those who i feel will find benefit from it,and enjoy this obsession,sorry hobby as much as i do. Glen

I always hope they arent in my family because if they were I wouldnt want to know them anyway. When I send a email I always put who I am talking about in the heading and a please and thanks in my message , never use the automatic ones.

They are dreadful. I never use them. I wish they weren't there.

I agree completely, I like to be treated as I treat others and typing a thankyou or regards takes no time at all. | would never use the auto replies. Regards Colette

Hi all I'm a 'newbie', but must join you in not liking those auto messages. I felt it was much nicwer to contact someone with a personal message. One of the postings (from Elizabeth Redhead) mentions no reply even after she sent her email address. I think it is possible that the 'email' contact through GR could get out of date. Do people when they change their emails remember to notify all the message boards etc that they are on. I've experienced this problem elsewhere. Also being a 'newbie' will someone please tell me what 'nudging' is? Have been reading most of the messages - thank you all for lots of info to keep me going. Gloria

I ended up having a barney on GR with someone who sent me one of those auto replies to see my tree. The thing was, he didn't ask to see my tree in the same week we had been discussing things, but months later!!! I didn't know who the heck he was and who he was interested in and to be honest I couldn't be bothered to look through fifty contacts to find him! If he wanted to look my research over, why didnt he ask at the time? I told him he was rude to use an auto reply and that I dont' show my tree unless people tell me who they are interested in - he wasn't amused, but I still didn't show him my tree! He even threatened to report me to GR for not letting him see my tree! Some weirdos on here as well as all the nice people! ;-) Cheers, Horatia

Hi All I cant even find them to send, even if i wanted to which i DONT,where are they,i have had them sent to me before now. Ann