Genealogy Chat

about my brother in law looking for his birth mother, in Aberystwyth
http://www.genesreunited.co.uk/boards.asp?wci=thread&tk=852176&px=21

He & my sister parted 2yrs ago, as you all know.Things were not good for a while but he now has a good relationship with their daughter (now 11yrs) and sees her often.

I found out today that he & my neice travelled to Aberystwyth a few weeks ago, the visit was unannounced, and remember he had still yet to meet his mum.
He knocked the door...........nothing
He kept trying, walking away and going back, walking all around the outside of the bungalow, peering through windows, generally making a nuisance of himself.
He laid low a while and the spotted someone through the kitchen window.
He pleaded for them to answer the door........
They did, it was his mother!!! She invited them in and it all went fabulously!
Turns out the bungalow was in a really bad way, she's an alcoholic, she's in a bad way too after a nasty fall a long time ago. My BIL saw past all that and asked her to go live with him, bless him. She refused, as he expected her too, so plans have been made for him to go and help her sort out her home.
I was so thrilled to hear all this today and so many of you followed this story from 2005 that I had to share it with anyone that's interested. His persistance paid off, their chat showed they had so much in common, he cant wait to go back.
Happy ending at last
Sam

Sam,

What a lovely thread to find when I logged on. I remember avidly reading the trials and tribulations your BIL went through, looking for contact with his mother.

I do hope that he can now build some sort of relationship with her, and that she will get to know her granddaughter.

Elisabeth

Hi Sammy,

How lovely, thank you for posting an update.

There can't be many on here who read the story that won't remember.

Kind regards
Amanda x

Hi Sam,
I remember your thread and how sad everything was.
What a very brave decision to make on your BILs part,and so pleased it turned out alright.
Just goes to prove that sometimes you have to take the bull by the horns.I wish them all the best for the future.
Kay

Thanks for the update i remember your thread.Glad its all ended ok. Annie

I remember it well.
hope it continues to be a long and happy relationship.

Hi Sam
I remember following your thread too. It doesn't seem that long ago.
I remember all the heartache and all the support you gave.
Best wishes for the 'new family'
J x

Remember the thread vividly and how we all waited for your news about bro in law.
So glad his mum has finally met him. She has resisted for a long time but now hopefully they can all have a relationship.
To all others still searching for fathers,mothers etc he is an inspiration as he never gave up. So glad too he has a relationhip with his daughter.

Fantastic Sam. I've been here since the original thread and remember all the trauma. I am so pleased for your BIL.

I never had contact with my brother for a number of years but two week before he died I invited him to stay at my home on a trip to London with his son..Needless to say he had a massive stroke on Euston Station and I got to spend some time with him even though he only recognised on the first day He was pronouncesed brain dead a couple of days later..No matter how short a time we have with people it can have a profound affect on our lives,and thiers..I did not like my brother I was frightened of him but I was given the chance to love and I will allways be greatful for that..Kind Regards Sarah

Wow

Sammy. Is it really two years? How time flies.

I am glad your b.i.l. is maintaining a relationship with his daughter and that he has finally made contact with his b.m.

His persistance has finally paid off. Hopefully, this is the jolt she needs to pull her life back together. There is nothing like a grandchild to put everything back into perspective.

Much love and good luck to all.

Libby x

Lovely thread

Good luck to all involved

Hi Sammy,

I too remember it very well.

Thank you so much for the update and very best wishes to all concerned in this.

Dea x

Hi Sam yes i remember it well and used to read your threads.
Best to all concerned

Margaret

I remember your BiL thread Sam, thanks for the update, so glad his persistance paid off.

Carolyn

Thank you all so much, I checked back here thinking "I bet nobody has a clue what I'm on about".. lol!
It's actually 3yrs since I found her address and contact was initiated on my BIL's part, I can hardly believe it myself.
Many others would have given up by now I really admire his persistance too.

I did have to smile to myself when I asked my 11yr old neice if her nanny had offered them a cup of tea, her reply was " she only has Strongbow....and a dog"
............out of the mouths of babes eh?

Hi,

I remember being glued to the Smiley Sammy's BIL thread too. Very pleased his mum has finally spoken to him and hope that this will be a huge breakthrough in all their lives.

Best wishes,
Janice

Just goes to prove that none of us must ever give up hope.As long as there's breath in my body I'll want to meet my birth mum so I know how strongly he felt.

Shannette!!!!!!!!!!!! What can I say except XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Dea x

I was wondering if there was any more news about this the other day.

Thanks for posting the latest news.

Hope everything goes well in the future.

Love the bit about the Strongbow and the dog!!!! lol

Linda