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...without being shot down in flames or branded a stirrer. This is just a point of view, nothing more, not a dig at anyone, so please dont' start. I have been watching the boards over the last few days and quite frankly I am disgusted at the behaviour of some people on here. Thread after thread making snide digs, assumptions, accusations and complaining have been put up by these people, who then turn into victims as soon as someone opposes them. I have seen goading, albeit of a subtle kind, but clearly what it is, I have seen threads deleted, only to be immediately replaced again by the same person (if I had a thread deleted by GR, that would be it for me, no way would I repeat it, thats just dumb and asking for at least a warning. Then, a whole new batch of threads appears, some asking for the boards to stop arguing, (yes I know this is another one) some complaining about threads being removed, some having digs. Is any of this really helping? Ask yourselves this. Do you REALLY want peace on these boards, because if you do, please stop behaving like kids and stop moaning about it. If a thread has gone, can't we just accept the subject is now closed, and move on? Can we stop having divisive threads put up, clearly designed to exclude, therefore potentially offensive? Can we stop having digs at each other? Can we respect one another and respect each others right to talk to who we want, and to hold an different opinion? Can we please GROW UP? Don't turn this into another argument please folks, or I will delete.

well said tw

Very wise words Teresa But will only work if everyone tows the line and treats everybody the same Linda xx

Teresa, Absolutely agree with you. Sue xx

Hurrah! Well done Teresa - I agree with everything you have said! Debby

Teresa, Yes, yes, yes....If you ignore something/one it/they will get bored and go away. Kathlyn

Reading some of the posts on some threads yesterday I was left with the mental image of vultures circling, not nice. Also I suspect that sometimes even the most innocent of threads could be turned into something if someone decides that what they want to do.

You're dead right there Julie Cat. I've seen some assume that because a person is not 'one of them' anything they say is going to be offensive, even if its not, and all hell breaks out. Why can't they just accept an opinion for what it is? It sometimes feels like there is a small minority on here who have a real persecution complex!

May I just add that even when you just ignore them they cry that you have been rude to them? Have tried that route ........................ JulesXx

Matchless, another good point. I have noticed ignoring those who goad or hurl accusations and insults makes them do so even louder. Maybe the standard reply to those who do that should be... WHATEVER! lol

Very well said, TW, it has been rather disturbing lately, hasn't it! I especially like your comment 'Can we respect one another and respect each others' right to talk to who we want, and to hold a different opinion'..... Thank you for putting it so well. BC XX

Will said TW. As I have said on a couple of other threads, talk about the threads content and leave the posters alone. If you don't like what has been said, fine. Put your opinion up. But don't round on the poster, they are entitled to their opinion too. If you don't like the poster, for whatever reason, stay away. There is no glory in starting another board war, and your behavior will be noticed. Linda

Hiya BC ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~## MWAHHH!! Hows Iris this morning. I hear she had a phone call LOLOL

Ok - I'll give it a go! Next time it happens Whenever! Whatever! Wherever! Who Ever! Sweeps out on Bwoomstick!! lol! Jules Xx

*shocked....Iris never told me that! lol

It will only work if everyone and I mean EVERYONE makes an effort but unfortunately, you know and I know, that ain't never gonna happen because no matter how how good the intentions of the majority there are a few who are hell bent on causing trouble. Jean.

You see Jean thats where it all goes wrong because those few that you are talking about probably feel the same way Everyone would have to agree to forget what happened in the past and start afresh But everybody must be treated and spoke to the same We must all be on the same level Cant see it happening myself but do think its worth a try Linda

Linda... you can't possibly know who I am talking about. It might surprise you if you did. Jean.

Precisely Jean, and its that which spoils these boards for the majority. Those small minded people who cannot accept a differning opinion without turning it into a full scale war need to stop what they are doing and think. I tried to help someone who was being 'bullied'(her words not mine) by suggesting that she does not put up thread after thread about it, as that is what the bully wants, the reaction and outcry. I was shot down in flames for it and ever since then that person has been unnecessarily rude and offensive to me from time to time. I am not the stirrer that she and others think I am, nor am I a troublemaker, nor do I actually hold anything against anyone here or in life. I jsut want to come on here and find a little light relief and not witness what I have in the last few days. Frankly I'm fed up with it all, I didn't pay my sub for this, I paid it to get help with my research, which I do, and to chat about different things, not just genealogy, and have a giggle as a bit of light relief from everything else.