General Chat

Jeanette, you don't have to have respect FOR someone to be able to speak respectfully hun. When contempt is poured out on these boards, just because that person does not respect someone, does it make them deserve respect too? (thats nothing personal, it is just a general statement)

Hi TW You ask if we can't respect one another. To be quite honest there are some on here who don't deserve and will never have my respect. Only today I have had to revise my opinion of someone which is always quite a sad thing. Don't know if it makes me sad because they didn't turn out to be what I expected or because I feel I must have had the wool pulled over my eyes in the first instance. As for the rest, I try my best....honest! ;-)))))))

if only everyone avoided threads - but the usual justification is 'you can't tell me where I can and can't post - I've paid my money ...' etc Caz (changing the subject) - did you get my pm the other day about your allotment? Maz. XX

I agree totally TW, I avoid peoples threads who have upset me before, its self preservation, Caz xxx

Well said TW. Catherine I have to agree with you, I think sometimes threads of a certain kind are put up to provoke. Just my opinion of course xx

Agreed Catherine. We all know that GR do not like to have anything negative put about them, and rightly so, it is a business after all, and negativity could potentially bring them into disrepute, so of course they delete. So it that light, there is absolutely no point in quibbling about deleted threads of that kind. Accept it, move on.

I think it might be worth people thinking about the kind of threads they put up- in my opinion it can incite trouble. Negative threads about the boards and it's people will cause problems catherine xx

Thank you Jean Linda

:))) Linda.

well i for one have no prob ignoring someone if we dont get on.but it gets to me when the constant griping keeps going on,im not perfect and eventually i bite.then i get angry coz ive let meself down.last night was horible.i had lots of pms saying how nasty things were.i spent alot of my time convincing peeps not to leave.its not fair on newbies.they need help to mingle.not abuse. nice thread teresa.good idea.xxxx

Sorry Jean if you misunderstood me I was just talking in general Sorry I apologise..I wasnt filtering anyone out Linda

Precisely Jean, and its that which spoils these boards for the majority. Those small minded people who cannot accept a differning opinion without turning it into a full scale war need to stop what they are doing and think. I tried to help someone who was being 'bullied'(her words not mine) by suggesting that she does not put up thread after thread about it, as that is what the bully wants, the reaction and outcry. I was shot down in flames for it and ever since then that person has been unnecessarily rude and offensive to me from time to time. I am not the stirrer that she and others think I am, nor am I a troublemaker, nor do I actually hold anything against anyone here or in life. I jsut want to come on here and find a little light relief and not witness what I have in the last few days. Frankly I'm fed up with it all, I didn't pay my sub for this, I paid it to get help with my research, which I do, and to chat about different things, not just genealogy, and have a giggle as a bit of light relief from everything else.

Linda... you can't possibly know who I am talking about. It might surprise you if you did. Jean.

You see Jean thats where it all goes wrong because those few that you are talking about probably feel the same way Everyone would have to agree to forget what happened in the past and start afresh But everybody must be treated and spoke to the same We must all be on the same level Cant see it happening myself but do think its worth a try Linda

It will only work if everyone and I mean EVERYONE makes an effort but unfortunately, you know and I know, that ain't never gonna happen because no matter how how good the intentions of the majority there are a few who are hell bent on causing trouble. Jean.

*shocked....Iris never told me that! lol

Ok - I'll give it a go! Next time it happens Whenever! Whatever! Wherever! Who Ever! Sweeps out on Bwoomstick!! lol! Jules Xx

Hiya BC ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~## MWAHHH!! Hows Iris this morning. I hear she had a phone call LOLOL

Will said TW. As I have said on a couple of other threads, talk about the threads content and leave the posters alone. If you don't like what has been said, fine. Put your opinion up. But don't round on the poster, they are entitled to their opinion too. If you don't like the poster, for whatever reason, stay away. There is no glory in starting another board war, and your behavior will be noticed. Linda

Very well said, TW, it has been rather disturbing lately, hasn't it! I especially like your comment 'Can we respect one another and respect each others' right to talk to who we want, and to hold a different opinion'..... Thank you for putting it so well. BC XX