General Chat

Having been away for a few days myself Jess I dont know what has happened over the weekend. I hope you can persuade your friend to stay if they are held in the regard you say they are. I have had nothing but support since I joined from so many people, everyone has been really helpful. It makes my blood boil to hear of good people being treated this way. This atrocious behaviour has to be stopped. I only hope your friend informs GR. Take care, Magi

Jess Please try and persuade your friend to stay. The bullies musn't be allowed to get away with it Jeanette x

typical to let the bully keep membership but ban anyone who mentions the name of bully, just like the stupid law in britain, an while we are at it lets serve tea and bickies to the bully shall we, (i was being sarcastic there)

Depends what you were thinking of putting in the tea Julie LOL Jan :-))

If the abusive email was through private email then GR cannot do anything. You can look into the properties of the email for more details It should give the email addy. If I was the reciever, i would block any more emails from that address. and also bounce them back. If it is through Gr, they may be able to do something. But nothing was done the last time someone recieved an abusive mail from another member. Elaine x

What so someone reported to GR abuse Elaine and nothing was done? Did I understand you correctly? Jan :-)

the only thing about naming and shaming is what happens if someone is wrongly accused and their name is plastered all over the board.

For clarification, the messages were sent thru GR

I feel very strongly that no member should be subjcted to abusive mail through this site or by any other means, but if abusive mail is sent through Genes then the person recieving the mail has a means of complaint surely, when we have posts like these they just spread suspision amongst us about who is responsible, and in light of recent events it seems clear that some of us, me included, go of half cocked without knowing the full facts and then a free for all happens, it would be so much better for the person on the recieving end to complain direct to Genes or if they feel that strongly that they are going to leave, then name and shame befor they go. i dont want to cause offence to anyone on this site by my remarks but all this, this or that happend but i cant say what or by who, is becoming a very regular happening. Tina

personally I only now send e mails through here to two or three people re general things, obviously for research I may contact others.The 2 or 3 I speak to are usually just to have a joke, I think most people would be best doing the same then this bad feelings may go away. Dave

hi andy- you cannot make a mistake. when you recieve a message via gc, it gives the name of the sender- even if they have changed their name, if you hover your cursor over the senders name- their membership number will show up. no hiding that :)

Jess, I am so sorry to hear about this. My thoughts are with you and this respected person. Em x

I bet we have all conversed with this bully many times. We just dont know who we are talking to. Most of us dont know each other other than via this site or email. We can say anything over the net, who's to know? Even if anyone has met in person, how long does it take to get to know someone properly? Much as I hated Kevin's language over the weekend, I understand his attitude when someone had searched for his home number and verbaly abused his wife. He must have given away too much personal info. Why do GR seem to not get rid of the bullies that contact people in this way and via private message. They do know who they are as loads of people must name the same people again and again. Margaret

Jess can you tell us who has been upset, so we can support her through her name ??? I'm trying to place who you are chatty and close with on the threads sandra

If they put something abusive in writing, what more proof is needed?? Jan ;~{

I totally agree that every member should know who sends these abusive e.mails, and naming and shaming is the only answer as GR don't seem to do much to stop it. But before anyone else volunteers to sacrifice themselves by naming and shaming - I only have 2 weeks of membership left ........................... so I am perfectly happy to be suspended if naming and shaming is what you want to do. All the best to the recipient of the mail. Keep your chin up and don't let the B*********s grind you down. Love Bev

Is it Joy Kentish Maid havent seen her on the boards for a while Linda

Jess, please try and get your friend to report this and stay, we must not let the bullies win! Nicky.x

i've seen joy on the board earlier, someone has suggested kerry is the one upset ?? but until jess says who we are supporting its just here say

There is a person i need to personally message first and then will , with their consent, post the name of the person that has been on the recieving end. jess