General Chat

If they put something abusive in writing, what more proof is needed?? Jan ;~{

Jess can you tell us who has been upset, so we can support her through her name ??? I'm trying to place who you are chatty and close with on the threads sandra

I bet we have all conversed with this bully many times. We just dont know who we are talking to. Most of us dont know each other other than via this site or email. We can say anything over the net, who's to know? Even if anyone has met in person, how long does it take to get to know someone properly? Much as I hated Kevin's language over the weekend, I understand his attitude when someone had searched for his home number and verbaly abused his wife. He must have given away too much personal info. Why do GR seem to not get rid of the bullies that contact people in this way and via private message. They do know who they are as loads of people must name the same people again and again. Margaret

Jess, I am so sorry to hear about this. My thoughts are with you and this respected person. Em x

hi andy- you cannot make a mistake. when you recieve a message via gc, it gives the name of the sender- even if they have changed their name, if you hover your cursor over the senders name- their membership number will show up. no hiding that :)

personally I only now send e mails through here to two or three people re general things, obviously for research I may contact others.The 2 or 3 I speak to are usually just to have a joke, I think most people would be best doing the same then this bad feelings may go away. Dave

I feel very strongly that no member should be subjcted to abusive mail through this site or by any other means, but if abusive mail is sent through Genes then the person recieving the mail has a means of complaint surely, when we have posts like these they just spread suspision amongst us about who is responsible, and in light of recent events it seems clear that some of us, me included, go of half cocked without knowing the full facts and then a free for all happens, it would be so much better for the person on the recieving end to complain direct to Genes or if they feel that strongly that they are going to leave, then name and shame befor they go. i dont want to cause offence to anyone on this site by my remarks but all this, this or that happend but i cant say what or by who, is becoming a very regular happening. Tina

For clarification, the messages were sent thru GR

the only thing about naming and shaming is what happens if someone is wrongly accused and their name is plastered all over the board.

What so someone reported to GR abuse Elaine and nothing was done? Did I understand you correctly? Jan :-)

If the abusive email was through private email then GR cannot do anything. You can look into the properties of the email for more details It should give the email addy. If I was the reciever, i would block any more emails from that address. and also bounce them back. If it is through Gr, they may be able to do something. But nothing was done the last time someone recieved an abusive mail from another member. Elaine x

Depends what you were thinking of putting in the tea Julie LOL Jan :-))

typical to let the bully keep membership but ban anyone who mentions the name of bully, just like the stupid law in britain, an while we are at it lets serve tea and bickies to the bully shall we, (i was being sarcastic there)

Jess Please try and persuade your friend to stay. The bullies musn't be allowed to get away with it Jeanette x

Having been away for a few days myself Jess I dont know what has happened over the weekend. I hope you can persuade your friend to stay if they are held in the regard you say they are. I have had nothing but support since I joined from so many people, everyone has been really helpful. It makes my blood boil to hear of good people being treated this way. This atrocious behaviour has to be stopped. I only hope your friend informs GR. Take care, Magi

Send us all the name(s) Jess, we'll all post it then we can all be suspended. If I ever get one I'll cut and paste the whole thing, whatever the consequences might be. Jan

it's so sad when a site meant for adults becames a childrens playground. these people need to grow up and leave the nice members on here alone, i have only been on this site for 2 weeks and have already meet lots of friendly ,helpful people but i have also seen the few children on this site. PLEASE GROW UP

I would guess that it isnt just one person. Maybe one person so far has sent the message, but there may be others supplying the ammo and letting others fire the bullets. Margaret

I suspect GR would suspend on defamation of character, theres something in the rules about it.

Julie Anne - that's really kind of you but it's not me.