General Chat

Good question David! I'd always thought I would cohabit - marriage didn't appeal and I've never wanted children. However when my husband and I were going out, I realised that he was 'the one' and that I actually wanted to get married! I was 35 when we tied the knot, he's 13 years older and has 2 previous marriages.

Keith I haven't got any kids so I wasn't thinking of that really:)

we never saw the need to get married.... we'd been together for 9 yrs and had 3 boys, plus a daughter from my previous marriage. When one night whilst watching tv ( before pc LOL) we suddenly decided to do it!!!!!!get married that is !!!! it was arranged quickly, we decided Febuary 9th and we was married by 15 March 2002. Once we decided we didn't hang around. We married in reg office. Must admit although we still have a rollercoaster relationship, it has been better most of the time since we married.

I would like to live with my partner for a while and then maybe marry. I would love to get married but intend to do it once (unlike my parents!) and therefore want to be sure that it's right. We shall see... becx

Can you say why you prefer it Glenys - does it feel more secure or more 'right' to you? I actually agree Chrissie lol - I don't understand why non- religious people want to get married in church - is it cos its prettier? I've actually been cohabiting far longer than I was married

David Do what ever you like, but look after the children if you are mature enough. Yea ? Keith

David I'm probably going to be shot down in flames for this but....... I try to keep up with the times in most things and I don't think anyone should feel compelled to marry. However, I do find it difficult to get enthusiastic about going to a church wedding, when the couples three children are acting as bridesmaids and ushers :)) Chrissie

If people wish to cohabit, that's fine by me ... but, if they are totally and utterly committed to one another, then why not show that commitment by being married? I am married. :-) Joy

Blimey David, that's strange: I was only talking about it with my family today. One of my brothers is married, the other living with his partner. Bob and I lived together briefly before getting married, and I was saying today that I prefer being married. That's nothing against people living together, just our choice. Glenys x

you did not live together when i got married my mum would have done her nut, nowadays my son lived with his wife for two years before getting married changed days indeed

Do you think marriage is still relevant today or is living together just as good? Why have you married instead of living together or visa versa? Do those living together like the idea of getting married eventually and why?