General Chat

You've confused me a bit, Wendy (easily achieved). How can you object to a homosexual being judged as less than a heterosexual while objecting to same-sex civil marriages? The law of the country allows heterosexuals to marry and doesn't let homosexuals marry and that IS treating us as less. David

Thats what mums are for wendy ah? Mind you saying that my parents didnt speak to me for 3months after i told them, they came to me though in their own time, now they are fine and i still love them to bits. Kaz xx

It doesn't matter to me if my kids are gay, straight or even reasonably sane - I still love em, lol.

Wendy like roxanne says your son has you to stand by him, he will always be your son and no matter what you will always love him. Hugs to you both. xxxkazxxx

Roxanne, myself, partner and all the kids have been very lucky to escape any problems, we have never been hassled or named called, all children have lots of friends who come to the house and even stay over their parents have been great! Kaz xx

Son isn't sure himself yet - we'll just have to wait and see. Mind you, he hasn't spoken to me for months so I won't be first to know. Ex hubby is very violently homophobic so I doubt he will be first to know either!

If there is a family get together Wendy, they will speak, just a hello how are you thats it, but they pass me in the street without a word. They still speak to my kids when they see them as do they speak to my ex. All my live i never once gave a thought for another woman until i met my partner when we worked together in a restaurant, this is the first same sex relationship either of us have been in, she too was married and has 2 children. So did your son turn out to be gay then? If so what was his dads reaction? I have just recently found out from my dad that one of his sisters is in a same sex relationship and has been for years. Kaz xx

Do you find some of them are now terrified you are going to jump them Karen? I am pretty sure my eldest son is gay - I've been sure since he was very young. My then husband and I talked about it once and he went crackers and said no son of his would be gay and he would never let him darken the doorstep again etc etc. I pointed out to him that parents and family members who react like that don't love the person in question to start with. How can you love someone one day and then hate them the next just because they 'come out'? They are still the same person it's just that the family find out something they don't particularly like very much.

Well Said Wendy, i totally agree with you. When i was with my husband we had friends some of those friends now dont talk to me now i am in a same sex relationship, i have 3 female cousins who i was extremely close to and we all spent alot of time together when i was married but now i never see or hear from them, it hurts me real bad as we wer like sisters but thats their choice, i have not changed in any way just cos my new partner is now female, i am still ME!!! Kaz xx

How can a person possibly be judged to be 'less than' if they are homosexual??? Does that mean a heterosexual rapist would be more socially acceptable because he is 'straight'?? I am strongly anti-abortion as Dave well remembers but I haven't fallen out with my friend because she chose to go down that route. A lot of people have a problem with homosexuality BUT they should take each and every person as an individual. I truly cannot see what the hell a person's sexuality has to do with the type of person they are and how they are treated.

David Owen, thank you for your reply to me on this thread, like i have said to many people to me honesty is the best policy and if people can not see me for who i am then that is their problem. I feel i am a nice person, loving, caring, patient and thoughtful to others. I just hope people see me for who i am and not what i am. Thanks once again. Kaz xx

Hi Kaz Well done for being brave! :) We never have to apologise for our sexuality and if anyone is offended by it, the problem lies with them not us:))) David

With the number of heterosexual marriage failures and the levity with which they seem to be undertaken, I think it is only fair that those same-sex couples who feel they are committed to each other and may have been together for many years will finally get a chance to stand up and publicly declare their commitment to and love for each other. Many of these couples have already been through so much together - overcoming prejudice for a start - that their relationships must be incredibly strong and they are fully deserving of legal recognition. Maz. XX

Thank you Velvet paws, again i see honesty as the best policy. If people cant accept me for who I am then thats upto them and its their lose. Thanks again Kaz xx

Hi dave, thank you so much for your understanding, you are so kind. I know some people find same sex relationships to handle. You are right though, i am a good mum, i love my 3 kids to bits and wouldnt be without them. Thanks once again for your understanding. Best wishes to you. Kaz xx

Karen you dont need to apologise for your honesty I have told you on Shirleys thread I think you sound like a wonderful Mum and a totally lovely person. I wish you and your partner all the very best also your children and grandchildren.I have no objections at all to same sex relationships Im sure you are both very happy and long may it stay that way. Davexx

thanks to all who have replied to my honesty, i am pleased i have not offended anyone(as yet), to me honesty is the best policy, just because i am now in a same sex relationship it does not mean that me as a person has changed since i was a married woman. I am just as caring, loving and patient to all, if i am honest i am more so now. Love to you all, you are all great people. Kaz xx

Hi Karen, you sound to be in more or less the same situation as myself and ive found that most people are totally accepting of things. Sheila x

Hello Karen I totally respect your honesty and am glad to hear you're happy in your relationship :-) Anyone offended needs to get a grip! love becx

Karen If anyone is offended by your honesty it's their loss not yours. I am always very pleased to talk to honest people and there is no way you could be considered offensive. I hope you and you partner continue to be happy together :-))) Patty, It certainly is your perogative to delete if this excellent topic turns nasty I really hope it doesn't as there has been so much good input, from both sides. Pat x