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In no circumstances would i except money from anyone, lovely thought, but i wouldn't even consider it. Its my mess and i WILL get out of it,. Do you know the hardest thing in getting private rent is , a lot of people wont allow dogs, and i have a little Lassa Apso, she is 5 this month, and my lot would rather get rid of me than they would her. Don't think i could part with her either , so tent it is. lol. oooh no council Tax, i like the sound of that. I might even become a Gypsy. Shirley Ann.

That is ok Shirley at least in a tent you won't have council tax lol

Shirley I'm so very sorry to hear this, but I'm a firm believer in what goes round comes round - you have done so much good that I know it will all work out for you. With my very best wishes, Mandy :) x

Shirley, It's amazing how things can come at you like that out of the blue and knock you sideways. In this case your whole family is affected by the actions of those mindless thugs who attacked your son. I think you're being incredibly brave about it and doing us all a great service by reminding us that there are others less fortunate than ourselves, who may not seem so on the face of it. It seems that life is being very hard on you, given what you do for others. I wish you every success in achieving your aim and I hope you are able to raise the sum you need to see you through. As Lindy has said, if it comes to it, I'm certain there are plenty of GR members who would be willing to help out, and I hope you wouldn't be too proud to allow us to do so. Very best wishes to you and your family CB >*|*<

Val that is so sweet of you. I am sure every thing will be fine in the end, something will turn up , if not i have a tent. LOL Shirley Ann.

Shirley, If I win the Lottery I will pm you, you would have no worries then, not with all the good you do. You know what they say God is good, well if anyone deserves help you do;; Babs

Shirley I have just seen your thread and I really wish I had that kind of money because I would not see you in trouble but I haven't so all I can do is send positive thoughts your way

The son that had the problems is my eldest and he do not live with me, my 21yr old son as an apprentice draughtman, My 22yr old daughter is finishing her degree , but is working at the same time trying to pay off her student loan. And yes i am in paid work but its a very low wage i certainly don't do my job for the money. I am not worrying over this ,as i said we will be ok hopefully, I just wanted to make a point really, to say , see it could happen to even the likes of little old me. Thank you all for your kind words everyone. Shirley Ann.

Shirley Anne something will come good XXXXXXXX

Shirley ann you do so much for others I do hope every thing goes well for you and a change of luck for the future Howardxx

Shirley Ann hope it all picks up for you soon. Each of us could end up with the same problem.....it is so easy XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

hi shirley i am so sorry hun,but as everyone else has said,miracles do happen. last year we were in great financial difficulty.so much so we were in the process of having our home repossessed1 the building society wouldnt listen and wouldnt agree to us paying it back a bit each month. i was so worried.we had been in our house for 27yrs and i love it. hubby tried every thing he could to save the house and he succeeded:) we remortgaged with another company. ok ,instead of a £32,000 mortgage which would have finished in 2yrs time ,we now have a £100,000 mortgage. because of the repossession threat we couldnt go to a high street lender so we are paying a very high interest rate. in another years time we can go back to a high street lender which will reduce our monthly payments. and ive still got my home,which i love dearly.it has a sentimental value as all of my babies were born here aswell as my grand daughter. i do hope everything works out for you hun.which im sure it will take care love susie

indeed it can happen to any of us- if you sons are still at home and are in employment, then i guess the council are right in not housing you, i guess they think a house full of adults should be self sufficient. Is your own employment paid?

Hi Shirley I would like to echo what Anne has said. I would also like to say though that you have a wonderful positive outlook and I'm sure that your family are very proud of you. Chrissie x

Oh dear Shirley Ann :O( What an awful thing to happen to your son, and how sad that in trying to help him you have got into this situation. I feel for you - I'm sure a solution will present itself to you - sending you positive thoughts anyway (((hugs))) Anne xx

Any money that had been claimed on behalf of my son would have been taken by the receivers to reduce his debt. The reason we never told my son is because he has suffered enough, he was very depressed for a long time, he is still up and down. and it really don't matter. its only bricks and mortor after all, He lost his wife and family through this, so in comparison what we lost was nothing. i would do it again if i had to for anyone of mine. We will be fine, i shall start looking for a house after xmas, I shall look upon it as a new adventure, theres people far worse off than me in this world. Shirley Ann.

Shirley, are you not entitled to anything under the criminal injurys compensation thingy?

oh my goodness, just read this and im shocked as to how it really can happen, im thinking of how you can sort it xx

Shirley Ann, it seems so unfair when you do so much for others. But I do feel that your son should have been told about the loan, if he finds out now he will feel dreadfully guilty. Although i can see that you didn't tell him for all the right reasons. I hope that somehow you come up with the money. and, as you say, it could happen to any of us. Ann Glos

Elaine, i actually run a homeless centre so i know where and who i need to contact, and my point was that homelessness can happen to any of us. And ther isn't enough hours in a day for me to take on another job. DAAH. Shirley Ann.