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thoughts and prayers to you and your friend. tina x

Thanks Wendy........I read your response in the totally wrong way......x

How sad to find out so late in her pregnancy. Send her my best wishes , Rosalyn xx

Oh Jill - what a sad tale......... Your friends will undoubtedly find strength to cope with this that they never knew they had. They will love this baby unconditionally for however long it's life be - and they will without doubt receive the same love back from their baby. My thoughts and prayers are with them. ANd (((HUGS))) to you darling xxxxxx

they and u r in my thoughts and prayers xxxxxxx

Jill it is very sad,but that little one will still bring a lot of love and i bet they will love (him or her)as much as there other child.Must now think positive.I wish them a lot of luck.Annie

Sorry to hear that Jill, my thoughts are with them XX

Jill I'm so sorry to hear this. Can I share a little story with you, it might help to comfort you a bit tonight. A friend's sister gave birth to a baby who was found to have Down's. She was low risk in all respects and hadn't had any tests done, so it was a complete shock after the baby girl was born. The mum was so distressed and in shock that she even contemplated going home from hospital without the little girl, but she couldn't go through with it. At the baby's christening, the godfather stood up and said that having a child with a disability was like having a holiday and ending up in a different destination. You book to go to Italy, you're really looking forward to going to Italy, you buy things for your trip, you read all the guide books and you're going to have a fantastic time. But when the plane lands, you find yourself in France. Surprised? Maybe shocked? Even disappointed? All sorts of thoughts going through your mind. But then you realise that this holiday is STILL a holiday - just a different one. You will still have a wonderful time, you will still enjoy France, but in a different way to how you would have enjoyed Italy. I hope I've explained this properly. Love and hugs Mandy :) xx

that is so sad. I have a friend that went through a termination at around 22 weeks. Although that was a decision made by her and her husband that was a terrible ordeal in itself. At least in this day and age with medical knowledge as it is your friend and her baby will get lots of specialist treatment. Lets all hope that something can be done to help the little mite after the birth. Thinking of them Claire x

Jill, I am thinking of your friend and praying that they will have the strength to cope with whatever problems they are going to face with the new baby. I am sure that he or she is coming into the world for a purpose and will brings his or her own love. One thing is certain, no matter how disabled the little three year old will love it unconditionally. ann Glos

That is very sad Jill. Sometimes even Doctors don't get things right, so until the baby is born I expect that they cannot be 100% certain as to how badly disabled she'll be. I too have a 'problem' they think I was born with but it has not stopped me doing anything. Only your friends could make the decision whether to carry on with the pregnancy or not; it is such a tough, individual decision which no-one else should judge; I feel it is always up to the individual, only they can know how they'd cope in such a situation. I wish them all well & hope that despite it's disability the baby brings them all the joy they deserve. Joan xxx

Jill so sorry to hear about your friends and their baby, what a sad story. Thinking of you all xx

Thoughts for the family

Thoughts and prayers to you and your friend. So sad Germaine x

Thank you everyone for such lovely and supportive messages for my friend..... Mandy - yours in particular sent me off on one yet again!! It is so perfect that I've printed it off so I can show it to G. x

Such sad news.Thinking of them and the baby. M.

When i first read this i was crying, thinking about how sad it was... then i remembered what an old work friend once said... Her children were all (and she had three )born with severe disabilities, she lost two at a young age and the third wasn't likely to live beyond four-six years.. i was so sorry for her and expressed how awful it must be for her... She smiled and said, these children are special, they don't have long with us here on earth so God makes sure they go to the right parents, someone who will love them unconditionally and live every day to the full. I was chosen to be their mummy, and i am so very proud that i will be the one to hold them, feed them and see them smile and love me back.... I hope your friend has many years of joy with her new very special little one... xxx lou xxx

Lou, Thats so lovely and I think very true, God sends these children to people he knows will love them for who they are. Roxanne xx

Roxanne and Toothfairy - you both said exactly what I was thinking - a special baby goes to extra special parents. I hope things work out well for your friends, and this new little one. If they have friends and family to support them I am sure they will do fine. Will be thinking of them all.

for some reason at times some of us are tested, our strength our will, our faith, may your friend and family be as strong as they are meant to be. in my thoughts and prayers. So sad Jill but thankfully they have a friend in you. Deb