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One of the hurtfull things was many years ago when I was about 10, my true father turned up on the door step and said to my mom, I've come to see the lads (my 2 brothers are older than me and my sister), I asked my mom after he had gone, if us girls had the same father...all 4 of us do, I have learnet since then that it was the wages they were bringing in that he wanted, he showed the same intrest in us girls when we were old enough to bring in money, but by then I didn't want to know him, is it any wonder?????? Bev

It's a toss up between being told they couldn't find a heartbeat at a scan and being told by my brother that as far as he is concerned i am dead. That was nearly 4 years ago, and so far he is sticking to his word!!

Rosie, she was an IDIOT...... What a pratt..... Better stop now, I'll get over cooked with rage. God bless. Deanna X

a so called friend who just a few weeks ago said 'i was wallowing in self pity over the murder of my son' it did happen 5 years ago and two years later my husband died ..... i am still needing counselling xxxx

I could not tell you Pink. After almost forty years.... it still hurts. The power of words!!! Deanna X

It one that sticks in my mind and still annoys me to this day. My dad had just died and I was still working and at lunch had to go and order the wreath for my dad and pay in a cheque for work. I went and ordered the wreath and forgot to pay in the cheque. As I realised this at work my boss jumped in and said angrily ' I bet you didn't forget to order the wreath' well no I Bl***y didn't. Heartless or what.

My ex m.i.l told my 2yr old daughter'Stop walking in front of the tv,get on that chair ' When she did as told and got on chair pointed to m.i.l s dog promptly bit her,m.i.l then said ' What do you expect if you get on the dogs chair ?' I lost my temper ,took my children home and refused to visit again.

my son once said i hate you so much i wish i'd never been born ouch that hurt

Lou - BIG HUG!! xx

''Your dad died last night'' Will never forget it as it was like a blade to my heart. LOU xxx

Awww Lemon that's awful ((((hugs))))

The worst thing ever said to me was. I was an unfit mother and the boys and my 6mnth old baby should be put in care by my own daughter 2 days after my dad died

My Mother always saying to this day, if someone says I look like her...' Oh God no she is like her Father....nothing like me' She divorced 35 years ago and hates him.........meanwhile she carries a picture to show of my younger sister and says 'This is the good looking one like me'..

After 2 years of fertility treatment being told by the consultant that I would never bear a child. Happily he was wrong and 3 years later I became pregnant and now have a lovely daughter. I will never forget those words though

Just carry on proving her wrong Bec. Maybe she'll eventually see it. Paul x

two things really stick out in my mind- 1.When my brother died ''Oh well, he wasn't your REAL brother'' some understanding of adoption there then. ---------------------------------------------------------------- 2. when my older full sibling asked our birth mother if she'd had any more children after her - and she denied i existed. - apparently she ''wouldn't be THAT stupid'' ....erm?!! Jess x

Not said to me.....but I have a vivid memory of hearing (at about the age of 6) my mother saying to my father that if she hadn't had me, she wouldn't have got breast cancer. She died when I was 8 Reg

Mums can be harsh. When I first moved out (at her request) she made sure she wasn't in the house when I came to pick up my belongings. She'd thrown all my stuff in bags and left them out with a 2 page A4 letter telling me how I was never going to amount to anything in life and how she was ashamed of me. Still hurts to this day, probably because she never said Sorry.

doesn't it hurt more when it comes from your mum. My mum has never been the most caring person and often says things that are very hurtful. Each one of my siblings, including myself had insecurity issues for a long time. Now we deal with it and realize 'She speaks before she thinks' I think the one comment that sticks hardest was the time she told me I looked like my aunt Audrey only fatter. I had been sick in bed for a week and just feeling better went to visit mum. That was my greeting comment. My aunt Audrey has been an alchoholic for years and is very haggered looking from self abuse but I love her immencley (splt) but know what she has done to herself, so don't know if I was more upset about the hit on me or the insult towards my aunt.??????

It wasn't said to me but my paternal grandma told my mother that her mother said if she married my grandad all her children would be blind. Cruel or what. Gill