General Chat

at this present moment I WANT TO BELIEVE.... I really do. Deanna X

Just general ..... If I make mistakes (which I've done countless times ... am learning though), is it OK for my loved ones to be punished ? Clare.x

clare that depends on the mistakes love sometimes it is innocent parties that get hurt in the backlash

no no no.... xxxx

But in some cases, if some people received all the grief they deserved.... then it'd affect their close family/friends anyway? Ultimately, 'You reap what you sow' is a good motto to live by. I don't (deliberately) do things to hurt people... and hope to have a happy life as a result :0)

But Bec would that include little children who have no idea about the bigger world ? Do innocent children deserve the backlash from their parents behaviour ? Cx

Nice point Bec. Deanna X

Clare - I'll answer your question with another question. Do people who do such things that affect their children deserve to have children? xx

Claire Please do not send me any more PMs through genes If I recieve any more belittiling me for spelling your name wrong when I answered you, calling me and another member names and in fact any more emails at all, I will send them all to abuse I will not be harrassed by you All I did was answer your thread, mentioning your story was familier and deja vous. I then added again saying SNAP when Id realised another member had said the same. Ive had seven emails from you now no 8, anothers just arrived five minutes after your last I will be sending them to abuse now Elaine

Yes people with children that make mistakes are no different to those who don't... I have made mistakes,one in paticular i am not proud of,but i am a good mum,and will live with my mistake for the rest of my life.

Bec Until you have children of your own I don't think you can comment. Some mistakes are really small but the heartache that goes with them is huge. Really good people have made mistakes and paid the ultimate price. Clare

I'd still like to know what I've done. VIvienne xx

Elaine I've already beat you to it hun. Can I always ask why you bring personal disagreements onto a public forum ? This was a difference of opinion between ourselves and not for public consumption. Clare (without the i) PS. Actually Elaine don't answer that ... as I said before it was a personal disagreement and private it should stay.

I believe, it's been proved twice to me now over the last few years.

Clare - Maybe not. One thing I can say, is that any mistakes that I have made have taught me things and made me a better person, just a shame not all people can learn from their errors. xx

I have not sown anything so bad to deserve the life i have had over the last five years.... two weeks before my husband died three years ago he said 'there are givers and takers in this world and you are a giver and i am glad i married you' .... so i not know what i done, so am disagreeing xxxx

Sometimes mistakes are made and not known about until long after. Maybe when pointed out or when they come back to pay you. Claire, I don't believe you have to have children of your own to have the opinion that Bec has. Jacky :-)

i think that there are certain actions one may chose to make knowing full well the repurcussions not only on them selves but their loved ones in which case it is not a case of deserving, but more of choices do i do this which could result in this or do i choice not to because of the risk involved. if you make the wrong choice and others are affected i believe you could have fore seen the risk before taking that course of action. it which case it comes down to the choices you make

I certainly don't believe that just because something bad happens to you, it means you must have done something bad before. For instance, when I was 10 my aunt was killed in a car crash, she died on my birthday. For the first time I knew greif. Did I have to go through that because I had been bad, or was it because my Aunt had a bad asthma attack while driving? Lets just say, as far as 'you reap what you sow', yes if you swear in front of your children, you should not be surprised when they swear too. If you are aggressive toward someone, don't be surprised if they are aggressive back. Treat people how you would like them to treat you. To me, that is what the saying means. As for life, you sometimes need to experience the bad to be able to appreciate the good, or help others going through the same thing. You have to take the rough with the smooth, you have to give and take. My favourite saying is..'Lifes a bitch and then you die'

on the subject of mistakes kevin keagan said its not wrong to make a mistake its wrong if you dont learn from it,we all have to learn as do our kids.as for what goes around comes around well i must be one hell of a b-------,either that or i did something wrong in a past life.coz it keeps coming my way,lol.xxxxxxjoy