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On searching the names on the 'search ' I find that my half brother has registered on genes, I don't know if he is a full member. I have a half sister and three half brothers, the sister I met briefly many years ago, and my hubby took her back to this half brothers house, and he did give an invitation for me to meet him, but at the time I was young and lets say I never realised I should not have let that opportunity go by. (To scared more like, lol) I have regretted it ever since. These children are from my dads first marriage, and even though my dad is no longer alive and nor is my half brothers mom. I so want to just meet him just once in my life, but I am terrified of upsetting my mom, as I love her dearly. I am also more terrified of being rejected by him, as I had heard over the years that he wanted nothing to do with us, but then why the invitation years ago. My fingers are itching to click on the contact button, but what would I say, lol my hands shake at the thought of clicking that button. Oh help what should I do Kal

If you don,t then you may always wonder.Just be prepared for rejection just incase and am sure it will be their lose and not yours..Good luck Jay.x

I just wouldn't be able to resist making contact. I would probably explain that I had been young and nervous about contacting him before but had regretted it ever since. But as for the sitution with your Mum, it's hard to say, you know her best so only you know if it would upset her if she found out. :-))))))))))))))))))))

well If you do contact him, he can only say hello or not bother to reply to you, then you will know. good luck with what ever you decide to do. jean

hi kal,if it was me...............i would make contact .but maybe not hurt mum by saying anything yet.kind of play it by ear.but this is maybe what i would do and not what others might do.best of luck hugs joyxxxxx

Kal I would have to contact him - if he's registered on here he must know there's a chance you will be contacting him? Write it as Esmeralda has said and as others have said - be prepared for rejection. I wish you all the luck in the world! Debby

I agree with Esmerelda. You know your mum best but obviously she knows they exist and I would think she will have some idea that you might eventually get in touch with them. Maybe be better to be straight with her but you will know best how much this will upset her. Just my personal opinion but I would make contact if it was me.

I think, I could mail him and tell him who i am, as he knows that i exist, and yes i suppose if he doesn't want to get in touch he just won't reply. So that way it won't hurt me to much. My mom is another matter, i wouldn't hurt her for the world, it's so hard to explain, I am extreamly close to mom, and i'm wondering if i can keep it secret from her, something i have never done before, as we have no secrets between us. Kal

oh kal Its a very hard situation it would be good if he was reading this and will understand exactly how you are feeling You only have one life and dont want regrets Best of luck em

Em I really wish he were reading this. Kal

I really feel for you and wish we had the answers. Maybe you could send a message first without having to tell her. Like you say he might not reply and you need not do anything. He probably feels like you do and maybe is scared to try to contact you. I had a similar experience last year but as my mum passed away a few years ago I did not have that problem.

nudge 4 kal

Oh Sugar, i'v clicked on it but don't know what to say, all i'v put is Hi ??? I really hope you don't mind my contacting you, are you the son of ??? and ???, oh gawd

Don't worry so much. I did exactly the same thing. my brain went dead and I couldn't remember me own name.

That would be a very good start actually, at least you might get a reply and be able to take it from there....... no need for long conversations at first contact really I suppose......... Good Luck! :-)))))))))))))))))))

Ruthie you can say that again, i'v gone brain dead, :-((((((

Kal you know in your heart if you don't do it you will regret it. Next line is I am Kal the daughter of ***** Would love to hear from you. There done then click that magic button

dont panic kal it will be ok

ok help, Whats this sound like, more ? less? idea's ? Hi ???, I really hope you don't mind my contacting you, are you the son of ??? and ????. I am kal, daughter of ??? and ???, and i was wondering if you are my half brother, I shall understand if you do not want to contact me, as i would'nt want to hurt anyone for the world. I think if you have joined genes, you must be interested in your family history, i have done a lot of research into it. My very kindest regards Kal