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Thanks, Shady .. dont you dare feel inferior!!!

Em I hadnt noticed any spelling mistakes in your threads,always thought how intelligent you are,in fact I feel quite inferior to you(and lots of others on here) I struggle to type with one finger very slowly and get very frustrated with myself,but what the heck,I get there in the end.You're a lovely lady so ignore what was said and carry on the good work.x

Em, Sorry to hear about this, you just keep on posting, and don't be worrying, gracious, whatever next... Chris :)

Em, Its the person you are that counts, not the spelling or grammar etc. You have no worries, you are a lovely person. Take care. Love and Hugs. June xx

Am gonna start having nightmares about snails... :(((

Em you got the words that make us happy,that make us laugh dont ever worry about spelling,,keep writting OR ELSE WE WILL COME AND BUILD FREYA THE BIGGEST SNAIL FARM IN YOU LIVING ROOM

Liz, many thanks for your message, it did make me smile ;)) I think i may have to point something out though, perhaps it explains my frustration a little better... English was 'my' subject at school.. ( rubbish at maths) i found the '0' level and 'A' level a breeze.. mum was an english teacher, so that helped. I did struggle with my degree a bit but that was more down to all the partying and late nights i think, though i did manage a fairly decent result. :)) What i mean is, Its knowing what was up there in my head and the fact some of its missing... AND the fact i know some of it is missing , is the upsetting and frustrating factor in all this... :*((

Em - hope it wasn't me made a comment, I have been known to do that as I have such a thing about spelling, I can't help it, I think it is another of my OCD thingies. Spelling was about the only thing I was good at at school. Now I have FM and CFS my memory is going too, and I search for words, names of things and such which is really hard for me to accept because my friends used to rely on my memory to help them out. My friend once said to my o.h. when they first met,' the trouble with Liz is she has such a darned good memory!' So if it was me I do apologize, I never knew you had had an accident, you come across as a very well rounded lady (not your figure!) who is the same as all of us, sometimes a bit flustered, maybe a bit worried but always on top of life, and very kind and caring. My old lady Mabel who left this world earlier this year, made me laugh when she told me this little joke. (She was an extremely respectable and religious lady, quite proper in her ways, but every now and then she would surprise me with some comment or joke that showed me a different side to her altogether .) The vicar visited an elderly lady in his parish, and said he wanted to talk to her about God and what happens when you die. He asked her if she ever thought about hell and the hereafter. 'Oh yes, Father,' she said 'I go into my kitchen and I think, then I go into my lounge and I think, and then I go into my bedroom and I think, I think 'What the hell am I here after?' Bless her, she told me this at least twice a month, when I was visiting her. R.I.P. Mabel. Liz

I just want to say a heart felt thank you to all of you that replied to this thread... your comments not only touched my heart, but i think others too that have read/will read this thread. It shows not only that Gr has so many caring and thoughtfull people as members but also, that there are so many of us that for one reason or another are living with some sort of problem, disibility, or illness, that nobody on the outside world would have the tiniest inkling of, and not the slightest idea about save you coming forward on here and speaking out. My point? well... What is tolerance? -- it is the consequence of humanity. We are all formed of frailty and error; let us pardon reciprocally each other's folly -- that is the first law of nature..... Voltaire...

I think what people need to remember is that we have members from all walks of life on here. OK Em you made a spelling error which embarassed you, there are people who make mistakes all the time spelling and grammar and wrong words, but we don't know what education these people had. I know that there are people on here who have only in adulthood learnt to read and write, think how humiliating it would be for them to be corrected on the board. That is why we must all show tolerance at all times. Ann glos

Em I wouldn't have known you had anything wrong if you hadn't said. Gosh we all forget all spell things wrong sometimes ( if you saw some of my postings before I check them I can't type for toffee). We love you just the way you are and I think whoever pulled you up on the spelling error is rude and short of something to do. If it is obvious what anyone means does it matter how it is spelt. As for fogetting things I have no excuse but am one of the worlds worst I think Oh well what the heck worse things to worry about. Germaine x Who just went to put the custard powder in the fridge and the pies in the cupboard.

Em, I don't have your reason for bad spelling, but I still feel awful when some one picks me up for it, but what I have learnt is that no matter how bad some one spells, it makes no difference to what sort of person they are, and you are a gem, so smile girl your worth it. :))) Bev

Em, please don't let it get you down, made a mistake posting a while back and someone called me on it, typed itch instead of inch. think theres a difference there but oh well. pmsl. For the most part everyone on here seems very accepting to others. Part of being on the boards is we have no idea what others circumstances are unless were talk personally on another site to them. All the more reason to be more accepting. Have read throught the entire thread to this point and am truly blown away by other peeps comments. I have a young niece who has a severe learning disability with language. She talks normally and to see her you would never suspect she has a disability. (Her brain does not descifer words longer than 5 letters). What is really hard is the minute some found out she has this disability they were down right nasty making fun behind her back (loud enough for her to hear). Even a couple of her teachers who know about her have made nasty comments. Thank god she is a strong person though for only being 16 she sure has a grasp on life and how to deal with peeps who don't understand. Be strong and don't let it get you down. Debs xxx

Em hon don't worry - my spelling is so awful i should change my name to (sp) i write it so often. I didn't see the thread but are you sure it was a serious micky take or just ( & maybe with knowing the facts am not trying to belittle the just bit- make sence) anyway- just a gently tease? Sometimes we all say things that aren't deliberatly (sp) meant to offend just a quirky sence of houmour (sp) etc. Either way you are lovely so there! just read my message - not sure it makes much sence so have to be Sophia (sp) (grm).Wilks

Hi Em Just wanted to give you a bit of support because I know exactly how you feel. I have very similar symptoms to yours, but caused by an illness not an accident. My long term memory is so good that people joke about me being 'sad' - I remember postcodes, phone numbers, birthdays, even car registrations. However, my short term memory and concentration are terrible. I do exactly the same as you to try and keep my brain active - I read a lot (although it has to be 'junk' because I can't concentrate on tricky plots any more), I write, I type etc. But most of all, I laugh at myself and even encourage my family and close friends to do the same, otherwise I would cry. Let me just tell you a little funny story that I hope will make you smile. The night before last, someone who I'd never met on the boards posted a thread asking a question about what certain letters represented. Some of us replied, and wondered if the 'R' had something to do with death, because there was a Latin word beginning with 'R'. I knew full well that it was requiescat but do you know what popped into my head first? Yep, rectum. Keep your chin up Em, you're a lovely person and that's what counts. And just for the record, I'm an experienced and trained PA/secretary with a good command of the English language but I would never, ever be so cruel or crass as to pick anyone up for spelling or grammar errors. Love Mandy :) xx

Em I have never noticed anything wrong with your spelling or grammar - I think most of us look to the message beyond the words! And you do the best Muttley impression I have ever heard - Respect!! Lol Kaz :o))))

I know its difficult when someone picks you up on something like that, I got upset today when I emailed someone who I thought might have been related and they sent me a really brusque email back. I got really upset, then thought well its their loss and if we are related I'd rather not know them anyway. I often forget the right words, my poor children get called 5 names sometimes before I hit upon their proper name. And I often forget names of objects, spending ages trying to describe it. (Have you ever watched dinner ladies? lol). And I've no excuse at all. So, you carry on being you and dont forget for every 1 person who upsets you, there are hundreds more of us out here on your side. I'm usually too busy reading the content of the posts to worry about anything else. Big hug, Bex xx PS: (Embarrassed face) Was so busy reading this post and then typing that I forgot I put the tea in the oven, and now its burnt. lolol.

Dear Em I'm sorry someone has taken you to task over a spelling mistake - what does it matter, here, we're all friends and understand what's meant. how many times do our fingers run away (oh dear, I forgot a capital H after the full stop!) There is a time and a place for correct spelling. I certainly haven't noticed spelling mistakes, just a caring, thoughtful lady. You just keep on as you are. Christine

Hello Em, I don't have an excuse either but I forget things and call my children by any old christian name that pops out of my mouth. My spelling can be quite scary sometimes and as for my punctuation well ;:!!! I don't have much of a clue how to use it!!??? What you have to say is all that matters to me and your threads are funny and often very silly which I like lots :o) Please don't worry xxxx Helenxxxx

Dear Em, Please don't worry about it. I'm like that and I've got no excuse lol. If we're here when we're 80, we'll be fine. We'll be speaking the same language lol Take care x lesley