General Chat

It's the same song for all of us Malc ................. :-))))))))))))))))))))))))

you women have a song but what about us men that have been there ??

Just that some bird called gloria recorded it first. lol

They wrote I will survive as our theme tune ........... LOL :-))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

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Somtimes better than that!!!!!!! lol

No it's not easy and takes hard work and time but the feeling you have when you suddenly realise, that you are not what you have been brainwashed into thinking you are, is better than ............ anything else ....................... yes even that!!!!!!!!!! :-))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Mandy - you hit the nail on the head there sweetie!! its an amazing feeling xx

Well said mandy - I remember thinking 'I have 2 choices here - I either lie down or stand up and take control - thankfully I chose the latter. God, I made that sound easy - it wasent, but hey I got there. lol. x

You're right Mandy - I would never let anyone treat me that way ever again - and yes, the strength you get from somewhere is amazing. Debby

You have to agree that the only way is up from then on Malc ................ It's like a safety net. Once you've been down there you make sure you never go back .......... :-))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I was in that state on my 40th Mandy We seperated 14 days later

But the best bit is that when you have been as low as you can go you find out what a fantastically strong person you are and they were never worthy of you in the first place............. :-)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I have a dear friend who has been through all this - her ex used to say he 'couldnt help it'. But he never hit his Mum, he never hit another BLOKE - so he could help it, couldnt he? (This man has now been in Court 4 times in 10 years for grievous bodily harm against a woman and each time he has been found not guilty. It can only be a matter of time before he murders a woman, he has just been 'lucky' so far) OC

I wonder why thats the reason I couldnt commit to my ex girlfriend . I was just scared

Awful Malc just awful! If I'm late home from work or I've been at the shops a long while, I panic but then relax when I realise I'm with my new partner - this is six years on - not sure I'll ever get over it! Debby

I know how you feel Debbie my ex girlfriend once raised her voice and her arm moved and I backed right off . Thats how she found out. I have no problem talking about it now though

If my oh just raises his voice slightly, I can't cope - all because of the verbal abuse I endured for the last 6 years of my first marriage. The second time I left my first husband was because he hit me for the very first time in 17 years - I never went back. Looking back now I should have left him when the verbal first started as to me it is just as bad as physical violence. Debby

like I said earlier Gwen the words can hurt just as much