General Chat

Regrettably, no, I for one will never forget what has happened this week. For evil to flourish it takes but one good man to do nothing. OC

I remember that saying, O C. Meercat quoted it not long ago. I shall not forget ...... MM

David, I am not particularly optimistic because people will go on dragging it up. I have compassion for any who were inadvertently caught up in the mess and I do sympathise with Lemon who I didn't see do anything wrong and who has always been a peacemaker on here. I have not put this up for people to continue to slate GR and I will delete it if that happens. i have put it up to ask people to be unselfish and remember the people who rely on the site being here for them to talk to their friends when they are poorly and/or lonely and unable to get out. Surely we can all do that. i am aware that the original instigators are still on here and I am appealing to them too, for goodness sake we are not children. I don't rely on GR but many do. OC I am not asking people to forgive GR and forget, just to be compassionate. if that is beyond some people then so be it I will have tried (as, I might add, would Lemon if she were in my place) Ann Glos

Very well said Ann, you have my total support. Liz :-)

I do not often Post but i just think it,s about time that Grown up People stopped just thinking of their own petty squabbles and used this site for it,s true purpose that,s chat for any who like to and helping with Genealogy .This can be a real good site Please lets all try. Junexx.

Hi Ann, Very well said, and I think something we all should remember is that we using the general board are probably far less than 1% of the membership using this website. We're not that important in the big picture of things. Love, Di.xxx

All my life I have been compassionate, and shall continue to be so, Ann.

I couldn't agree more............well said, Ann. Reg

Last night we hosted my wife's third cousin from Oz and her husband. We made contact through here. She has been researching for 30+ years, we have been doing it for three, but we were able to help each other out. Please don't let differences of personality or opinion damage the site and curtail the chances of similar contacts. Better to have short memories than a long war!

If everyone in the world was compassionate and unselfish, there would be no problems. Unfortunately they're not and so there are. Jay

Well said Anne, there is enough aggro in the world without it being on here,this is a place to chill ,find long lost rellies, and have a laugh while doing it. best wishes wendy

Unfortunately there are those who do not intend to let go. Sadly they are people I thought of as good people, friendly and kind. They criticized the WUMs(as they called them). Now they are in danger of becoming WUMs themselves and spoiling the enjoyment of those of us who just want to live in peace. They are not hurting GR at all they are hurting people who were their colleagues on here who are unable to do anything about the situation but carry on as normally as we can. Ann Glos

I totally agree with you Ann, I just want to have a chat with people like I use to do, I have no hidden agenda, I don't care who you are, as long as you respect me I will always respect you. People that have gone to pastures new I wish you good luck, but is there any need to spoil it for me!!! Please can you tell me cos I would love to know. I have met some of you and you know I'm not a nasty person I just want to have a chat, I'm stuck at home all day, with children and to me this is company. I have sat here today and cried at all the hatred towards this site if Olly my husband come in now he will wonder what the hell is going on. Please can you spare a though for the people like myself who have never caused bother, who get on with everyone who just want a decent conversation, without having to listen to comments like it smells in here-Do I smell then? These comments from people I use to chat to-I'm so upset I can't tell you. catherine xx

Catherine, if only we could get over to people that it is us that are hurting, you are not the first one who has told me she has been in tearsover it all today. These are not vindictive people, they are people with a grudge (maybe valid maybe not but nothing to do with the rest of us) against GR. They are not hurting GR, they are huge, they have millions of members and much as we may not like it, those of us on the boards don't matter to them much. Stick with it catherine, ignore things like bad smells in here etc, that is childish playground talk and most unpleasant but we know we or you don't smell. I din't think theyw ould get vindictive with people they knew but there you are, it takes all sorts and those that have been around making nasty comments to us, their fellow membersor ex memebrs have gone down a lot in my estimation. Ann Glos

The voice of reason! Just hoping that everyone takes note. Well said Ann.

David, I want to make it clear I did not have your post deleted. But while talking of groups targetting people are you condoning the ones who are targetting people posting in the new pub thread on here. people are not very pleased by being told that where they are has a bad smell. These people have done nothing to bring about this situation at all and it is childish and not nice. Ann glos

Very well said Ann, you have been so supportive of me and for that I am so grateful, Cazxxxxx

I agree with Ann. Let's try and make these boards a nice place to be. I am not niaive enough to imagine that we will all agree with each other all of the time, and a good debate is to be encouraged - if only to keep us older members brains functioning but try anfd leave the vitriol behind. There really is no need for it - there is enough nastiness and aggression in the world as it is without adding to it. I love this site, it's really great. It has given me companionship, support and most importantly a tremendous amount of help for which I am truly grateful. Let's ensure its continuance by adopting a more tolerant adult behaviour to each and everyone and respect the fact that we are human beings with exactly the same feelings and emotions.

When I read a post like Catherine's I begin to understand just how much this site means to many people. I know that there are a lot of people feeling upset and hurt by recent events but if, as we are told, you have found a site you prefer, well please use it, enjoy it, and let people like Catherine enjoy the use of this one. None of us can alter what has happened, we simply want to restore this site to what it was a long time ago. A friendly, chatty place where you could meet friends, get support, discuss hobbies and interests, play a few silly games and quizzes oh! and discover long lost family. Baz

Good words Anne. I just hope that all this can be put aside. I know people have been hurt and are angry but surely we can all live side by side. What was pointed at Catherine upset her badly isn't this what everyone was trying to stop. We can choose who we talk to and when, shouldn't be afraid of doing so. I have decided I am going to just that. Germaine x