General Chat

Though it's difficult to remain cool - though I shall ... :-) ... when garbage (since deleted by the poster) has been posted on the success board about one.

Anne hasnt gone mad - my two line posting has been removed. OC

Hear hear

There are different points of view on here and I do not disagree with anything that has been said...or that I have seen ....but my feelings are with Davids original posting which has disappeared......and I believe in following my feelings

I totally agree with you Ann Life is to short for all the childish bickering that goes on Maureen

You've got it spot on Ann. We;re all adults and should be able to deal with disputes without resorting to what I'd call 'playground tactics'. For those who have found pastures new, good luck to them .....and I mean that. For those who prefer to stay here well good luck to them too. We all initially joined for the same reason..............lets stick to that.

This has all been very sad but Anne now has a point. Being nasty to other members isn't hurting GR, just other genuine people. Well said Anne

Yes Ann, I agree. I, too, belong to other genealogy sites (one of which was, I believe, set up after a previous infiltration of trouble makers on here) and chat on them, but Genes (Connected) is still my favourite, probably because it was my first! I have made some good friends on here, as well as finding previously unknown relations, and for those reasons I will be staying here and still posting. It deeply saddens me to see what has happened this week, and I feel really sorry for those members that were caught up in this playground behaviour. To the members that have decided not to post on here any more, I understand your decision, but surely that means that the 'lunatics' have won. I will miss you all, and all your posts, and hope to see you back in the not too distant future. Take care Sue xx

I have no idea what happened, Ann, earlier, but have sent a supportive PM to Catherine.

Anne is talking a lot of sense. Please 2 wrongs don't make a right . Please stop all the bickering. Germaine x

Mags I meant to say, yes we have met twice, you are a lovely lady and I am very sad that you feel it necessary to leave, but that is your decision. I have nothing against the other site, it is great, I joined it (probably been chucked off now Lol!) but it is not GR and I love GR and it is 'home' to me after over 3 years so i wont leave now. Ann Glos

OC I can imagine how she feels and I really feel for her, i have said as much many times. what I am also saying is that nothing I or any of you can do will alter things. It is GR who made the decision and, as they are not likely to come on here and defend their actions we can't know why. Joan I don't think, in the normal run of things, that you need to be worried about posting on threads. The other day was an exception, several people who were banned were incensed with a decision and set out to antagonise the management and succeeded. i think we should all think about the story of the bucket of water in relation to how much we individuals would be missed if we threw our toys out of the pram and left. Put your hand into a bucket of water, now draw it out, the hole that is left is the amount that you would be missed. None of us are indispensable. And no David we have never fallen out and I am not falling out with you now. i have friends on other sites (note the plural because there are more than one Genealogical chat sites) but my first love will always be this one and that is not about to change. To those worried about who will help, read the bit above, there will be other people along to help as more people join. That is the way of the world. Ann Glos

Hello Ann, We've met - I hope in meeting me, you know I am not a vengeful person, I think I would consider myself compassionate and I certainly know what a lovely lady you are. I too would like to enjoy this site, I used to. I appreciate that those people that use the boards are a tiny minority but the people that have left or are leaving it in one way or another, although not important in percentage membership terms were important to the boards themselves. It's a great shame that this has been allowed to happen. I don't consider myself to be important in that way, I haven't got the expertise or knowledge that some of these people have but I will be leaving the boards too because I don't happen to think that justice has been served. The site is a poorer place for it and it saddens me so much. Take care Mags xx

Good words Anne. I just hope that all this can be put aside. I know people have been hurt and are angry but surely we can all live side by side. What was pointed at Catherine upset her badly isn't this what everyone was trying to stop. We can choose who we talk to and when, shouldn't be afraid of doing so. I have decided I am going to just that. Germaine x

When I read a post like Catherine's I begin to understand just how much this site means to many people. I know that there are a lot of people feeling upset and hurt by recent events but if, as we are told, you have found a site you prefer, well please use it, enjoy it, and let people like Catherine enjoy the use of this one. None of us can alter what has happened, we simply want to restore this site to what it was a long time ago. A friendly, chatty place where you could meet friends, get support, discuss hobbies and interests, play a few silly games and quizzes oh! and discover long lost family. Baz

I agree with Ann. Let's try and make these boards a nice place to be. I am not niaive enough to imagine that we will all agree with each other all of the time, and a good debate is to be encouraged - if only to keep us older members brains functioning but try anfd leave the vitriol behind. There really is no need for it - there is enough nastiness and aggression in the world as it is without adding to it. I love this site, it's really great. It has given me companionship, support and most importantly a tremendous amount of help for which I am truly grateful. Let's ensure its continuance by adopting a more tolerant adult behaviour to each and everyone and respect the fact that we are human beings with exactly the same feelings and emotions.

Very well said Ann, you have been so supportive of me and for that I am so grateful, Cazxxxxx

David, I want to make it clear I did not have your post deleted. But while talking of groups targetting people are you condoning the ones who are targetting people posting in the new pub thread on here. people are not very pleased by being told that where they are has a bad smell. These people have done nothing to bring about this situation at all and it is childish and not nice. Ann glos

The voice of reason! Just hoping that everyone takes note. Well said Ann.

Catherine, if only we could get over to people that it is us that are hurting, you are not the first one who has told me she has been in tearsover it all today. These are not vindictive people, they are people with a grudge (maybe valid maybe not but nothing to do with the rest of us) against GR. They are not hurting GR, they are huge, they have millions of members and much as we may not like it, those of us on the boards don't matter to them much. Stick with it catherine, ignore things like bad smells in here etc, that is childish playground talk and most unpleasant but we know we or you don't smell. I din't think theyw ould get vindictive with people they knew but there you are, it takes all sorts and those that have been around making nasty comments to us, their fellow membersor ex memebrs have gone down a lot in my estimation. Ann Glos