General Chat

Oh, Jenny, I'm so sorry. Tears can help release the tension and give you the strength to carry on. Maybe it's because this time there is nothing practical you can do but when your first husband was so ill you had to cope. Gwynne

Jenny - there's nothing worse than keeping it all locked in - but if your feeling very low and even depressed go and see your GP. You won't be letting yourself down by going and you don't have to have any medication, just talk to him. Take care:o) jude sarf wales :o)

Jenny, what can i say ... its all been said , but i'll send you some (((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))) and hope that you'll soon be feeling better hazelx

Jenny, sending you loads of hugs and kissess, Rosxxxxxx

Hello Darling Jenny It's O.K to cry If there is any thing I can do please pm me. Take care Lynne.

You are a strong person but we all need some 'me' time to help us carry on. Crying is probably the best way to heal, you are entitled to feel this way. God bless Love and hugs Janetx

Lots of (((((hugs))))) Jenny. There is no shame in having a good cry as others have said. There comes a time when we all get to the end of our tether and your SiL's illness is obviously the straw that broke the camels back (sorry there are two cliches there). never mind what your hubby thinks, he knows what sort of person you are, or he should do, so he will know that your feelings are not really for yourself but for your SiL and your first husband. I hope the cry will make you feel better. If not, maybe a visit to your Dr to ask for help in coping with your very sad situation. And, as others have said, you know where I am. Ann Glos

You are human Jenny,with a loving caring nature, The pain of watching someone that you love suffer is unbarable,Understandably it has brought all these emotions back for you, Just because you feel the need to cry doesnt mean you arent strong,,,,just human Sending you a warm hug,, Claire

Jenny there is nothing wrong in sat there having a good old cry-I can't say I blame you. This must bring back painful memories for you and it's only natural these feeling have come to surface-you wouldn't be human if they didn't. Is there anyone you can contact a support group that deals with terminally ill people, forgive me but I have never had experience of this, I just thought it might help-I'm sure there are lots of people on here that can talk things through with you. sending you my warmes wishes for you and your family. catherine xx

Jenny Whats happened is that you had to 'just get on with it' for your children so you havent been properly able to grieve for your husband and now this has opened up all the feelings that you put away in the past! Its like opening a box that has been put away!

You go girl !!! A good cry works wonders, you obviously need to with everything you're going through at the moment. However you might need to see Doc at some point they will help you. After all we all like to think we're superhuman but at the end of the day we are only human. Sending lots of ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Claire xxx

Hi Jenny Crying is a release - I do it so many times - and always on my own - I hate people seeing me cry. A doctor told me 30 years ago it was the best medicine - to have a good cry. Also, from my experience, to talk about what is making you feel like this is also good - a trouble shared is a trouble halved. If you want to talk you can pm me - it wont go any further. Make yourself a cup of tea or coffee and take a few deep breathes. Hope you feel better before hubby gets home. Take care Love Mary in Spain xx

Thanks for your replies, I am dreading my Hubby coming home and seeing my red and swollen eyes. To top it all I am now very tempted to open a bottle of wine, and have a very early night. Why is it that I coped with my terminally ill Husband for 6 years, who I loved very much and also had three children to look after, all under 10 yrs old and i think I coped very well. Then I now go to pieces when faced with this new crisis. jenny.

jenny please dont cry((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))) life is,nt fair sometimes but i hope things will get better for you sending all my love joyce from hollandxx

Hi Jenny,Im sending you a ((hug)),I do hope you feel better soon. Roxanne xx

Jenny been there this last year (as you know) Went on a stress management course and only there 10 mins when the crying started and went on and on! They told me that I had to learn I couldn't be all things to all people and to learn to say no instead of always agreeing to help others. Hard I know but sometimes you just have to take a back seat. Take care of yourself. love Linda x

Jenny, i am sending love and (((((((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))) You have a lot to deal with love, but it's time to let your OH take some of the load, expalin to him how you feel, i'm sure he does'nt realise!! You are in my thoughts!! with much love Helenxx

Jenny A big (((((((((HUG))))))))) for you. Even if you think you are strong a good cry is allowed. It is a difficult time for all of you. Thinking of you. Love Hilary. xxx

jenny youre feeling like that cos you are human. you can only bottle so much up hun please take care and i hope my email helped you:) hugs love susie x

Awww Jenny, I so wish I was nearer. Chin up hun, another day tomorrow. Try and focus on the good things that are going on...hard I know, when you have sad thoughts. Is there any part of your tree you need help with? I can help you to find and focus on something else? If I can help at all, please tell me. Tina x