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Mersey

Mersey Report 24 Sep 2017 20:00

So sorry for your loss Rollo....

Annx

Annx Report 24 Sep 2017 19:42

I'm so sorry to see your news Rollo. Your mother sounded quite a character with zest for life and enjoyment of it, which makes her treatment or lack of it, despite your best efforts, all the more frustrating and distressing.

Gwyn in Kent

Gwyn in Kent Report 24 Sep 2017 18:22

I am sorry to hear of your sad loss.

Thinking of you and your family, at this troubled time.

SuffolkVera

SuffolkVera Report 24 Sep 2017 17:30

I am so sorry to hear this. My condolences to you and your family. Cherish your memories and take comfort in knowing that you did all that you could. Your mother will have passed away knowing how very much she was loved.

Thinking of you <3

Autumnleaves

Autumnleaves Report 24 Sep 2017 17:02

Rollo.

I think it may be a help and comfort if you concentrate on the knowledge that you did all that you could for your Mum - and more importantly she knew that too.

Many of us are aware how difficult it is to strike a balance between getting the best for our loved ones, or risking the ire of senior Medics.

I respect you for all the help you have given to people on Genes. therefore may I offer my

Sincere Condolences to yourself and family,


Autumnleaves

'Emma'

'Emma' Report 24 Sep 2017 12:18

My condolences Rollo for your sad loss.

SheilaSomerset

SheilaSomerset Report 24 Sep 2017 11:30

So sorry to hear this.

Sheila <3

Rambling

Rambling Report 24 Sep 2017 11:01

Rollo, I am so very sorry,much more than I can express. Try, in time to come, to remember all those things that your mother loved to do and the things that made her laugh.

My sincere sympathy to you and all your family.

My mum left a note in her diary of all her "blessings", and a copy of this poem which I sent out to her friends, it will be of absolutely no consolation now but you may remember it further down the line.

"Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you plann'd:
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad."
C Rossetti.

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+++DetEcTive+++ Report 24 Sep 2017 09:46

Rollo - so very sorry to hear this sad news. Our thoughts are with you X

RolloTheRed

RolloTheRed Report 24 Sep 2017 08:29

thankyou

Today I have to go to the chapel of rest. I am not looking forward to it.
Mrs Rollo is coming with me, she and mother got on really well.
Mum was not in decline she had good eyesight, full mental faculties and was mobile
. She was full of fun not just past memories.
She loved nature, historical novels, art, oh cooking, politics. Active member of local party. She has five great grand children who all loved her.

Heaven's Light Our Guide

JoyLouise

JoyLouise Report 24 Sep 2017 08:12

Such sad news, Rollo.

My condolences to you and your family. I hope the many happy memories of past times with her will offer you sustenance forever.

X

PatinCyprus

PatinCyprus Report 24 Sep 2017 06:49

Sincere condolences Rollo to you and your family, all on here are with you. <3

Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it

Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it Report 24 Sep 2017 06:18

So sorry for your sad loss

LindainHerriotCountry

LindainHerriotCountry Report 24 Sep 2017 05:57

Oh, I am so very sorry, there is nothing else to say at this dreadful time.

SylviaInCanada

SylviaInCanada Report 24 Sep 2017 03:32

My sincere condolences, Rollo xxxx

It is never easy when a parent dies xx

Allan

Allan Report 24 Sep 2017 01:21

My sincere condolences, Rollo

RolloTheRed

RolloTheRed Report 24 Sep 2017 01:09

My mother has passed away.

Instructions from the matron following a 90 min meeting on Thursday and a family meeting with the doctor on ward Friday viz. continue drip painkiller, hydration were ignored.

I shall never forget the house doctor's beef that he had "planning" to consider and they "needed the space".

Anyway this morning I played to her a bunch of her favorite songs from youtube hands locked together rocking. She had a fine voice when younger.

sic transit gloria mundi


LindainHerriotCountry

LindainHerriotCountry Report 21 Sep 2017 19:23

I took a tub of gravy granules in and made gravy every day for my father, so he could eat the meals, they were far too dry without that

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+++DetEcTive+++ Report 21 Sep 2017 19:03

Rather surprising they didn't suggest you tried to give her their slop. When someone is 'red tray' ed, the staff usually appreciate all the help they can get.

They do seem to have a problem accepting that a number of patients need moistened food to enable them to swallow. I've been told off when asking for extra gravy for my stroke victim father, but it was something he'd always needed.

Fight the good fight but remember to look after yourself.

LindainHerriotCountry

LindainHerriotCountry Report 21 Sep 2017 18:45

I am glad they have backed off. It is ridiculous that they want to put her on the pathway when the operation was a success. All yo can do is try to feed her as much as you can. I know being there all the time is difficult, I have done it twice, for extended periods, but that was the only way my father got anything to eat or drink