General Chat

I agree with you George.............agree to disagree and move on.

I have managed to do it, so anyone can :-D

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I think it's rude to take over a thread to Hayley, it used to happen a lot.

Evening George :-D I suppose what needs to happen is, that more people post, so the nastiness falls into oblivion.

As Hayley said some people seem to be here all day and night squabbling, maybe they should have a rest :-D

The sad thing is that people leave instead of staying and adding threads, the more people who add threads the more the aggro threads will sink into oblivion.nthecontroversial threads only drag on because people don't have any others to post on.

I just don't understand why people continue to add to threads that are upsetting or contentious.

Give your friend a hug from me Lynda :-)

I remember a few years back when an almighty row was flaring up and GR actually closed down the chat room for a w/end perhaps the occasional closure when things get heated might calm people down :-S

I've been away from GR for about a year and have noticed a difference in the boards.

There are some lovely people who are still members and who help those with questions, but some of the posts you would have to ask yourself why they even bother to put them up...do people read over what they have typed before they press the submit key!

I love history, GR is just a tool to help us interact and find new discoveries, if we keep that in mind it should all go well :)

There are more nice people here than weird ones.

I ignored the sniping & rude comments until recently. If I'm insulted I want to know why the posters think they have the right to make such comments.

If I'm not interested in a topic I don't add to the thread.......... and don't understand why people have to add nasty comments to threads they don't like.

<3 for the nice people
:-P for the not-so-nice people

:-D

If your friend was here in 2009 and sure she's seen a lot worse than is happening now, Lynda. ;-)

I have a long memory as well and the current occasional unpleasantness is nothing like the all out bunfights of days gone by when the whole front page was full of angst, flouncing and sniping.

There's some nasty stuff around, currently, but it doesn't seem as bad as the ganging up and clique accusations of time gone by.

But I'm not around GR as much as I used to be so maybe there's stuff happening that's passing me by.

I wonder what would happen if the very few on here who don't see eye to eye were put in a room together and told to sort it out...........*writes to Jeremy Kyle*
;-)

Kitty. I am old enough (and was a bad enough lad in my youth) to be extremely worried about some of the paternity tests :-0 :-0 Particularly those who know Colwyn Bay, Wolverhampton and Merseyside well :-(

That's a whole other show though John :-0

When I was in junior school I told Mum that there was a girl no-one liked as she was dirty and had nits.

To my horror, Mum arranged for me to spend time with her and get to know her............she was really nice and when I saw past the grubbiness and itchy head I found a lonely little girl who I still keep in touch with today.

Mum was a very wise lady :-D

On the other side of the coin is my brother who I was so very close to who grew to be an adult I still love but have no contact with now as he caused immense hurt to us.

We agree to disagree but can never reconnect as we once did and so live our own lives avoiding causing each other hurt.

But I do know that if ever we truly need each other, as at Mum's funeral, we can still be civil to each other then go back on our own paths again.

Life is tough enough without seeking to hurt anyone else, let alone people we only know via a chat board.

In my humble opinion anyway.
:-)

Some people come on here and other sites as well,
they can spend all day and night on them but no-one
knows their circumstances. I for one would never question
what their circumstances were . Who are we to judge.
It could be their only interaction with the outside world. <3

I was listening to my favourite radio talk show host Jason Mohammad yesterday. He was handing over on Radio Wales about 1pm to the next host.

She said " Jason, you're looking brown" I waited with baited breath, particularly after this sensitive weekend on here and the fact that he has a Pakistani father. "Yes, I had a great holiday in Egypt" he replied.

We have all got sensitive issues - me included. And we can assume on here that everyone knows we have been ill, are experiencing constant pain, have just split with our partner, have just lost a near and dear one. But very often they don't know. And isn't is better to assume they don't know your circumstances? We can also come to a conclusion (because of history, leopard never changes etc) that other poster is trying to have a go. Not always :-)

Maybe some people assume too much about other people when it's best to leave things well alone.

Kitty your post at 10:40 sums it up :-D

Mersey, exactly what we were saying, some people who come on here, who can't get out much, if at all. must be awful to look in and see the threads, where all that happens is bickering, no point in it :-(

On a :-D note, I can't help but when I look at the title of this thread, I keep saying to myself...

"It's only a puppet"

Older people will understand that one :-D :-D :-D

ooh I like puppets

I joined GR in October last year to help me with my research into my family history. I looked into General Chat to see what it was all about. I was immediately made welcome by some very nice genuine people who have been so kind and helpful, I almost feel that I know them personally. I loved the humour and banter, and joining in with the discussions. However it all seemed to change in in my opinion.Threads would start and before you knew it arguments broke out, people were being RRD left right and centre (I did not know what this meant and had to ask, that turned put to be a funny thread) Some very nasty arguments have been aired on the threads, and I for one can not understand why anyone feels they need to add to the debate, I read them and obviously have my own views and opinions, but I do understand that some people feel that they have to defend their standpoint. I have to say their are some extremely intelligent people on here, and I have found them to be interesting and very informative. Some I have found to be argumentative and "picky". As RR said in an earlier post on this thread one would almost never find this mix of people in a room together, can you just imagine for a moment going to a social event and meeting some, I can tell you for sure I would be out of the door a bit sharpish. A media such as this can bring out good points and bad points in a persons character and they may not be anything like it in real life. I don't contribute to the threads as much as I did initially, partly because I have so much going on in my life at the moment, but also I honestly can't be fussed to do so. I appreciate that some for some people taking part in the General Chat is a good way of "meeting" and becoming involved with people, so for that reason long may it continue.

Sorry I do seem to ave rambled on rather............

PS I was RRD once for a very innocent comment, and to this day I have no idea why.


PPS As my old Grannie used to say "It takes all sorts, what a boring world it would be if we were all the same"

John you have a good point when you say.

"We have all got sensitive issues - me included. And we can assume on here that everyone knows we have been ill, are experiencing constant pain, have just split with our partner, have just lost a near and dear one. But very often they don't know. And isn't is better to assume they don't know your circumstances? We can also come to a conclusion (because of history, leopard never changes etc) that other poster is trying to have a go. Not always"

Lynda I also feel that not only new members popping in to have a look but also to members who still pay their fees who do not post or refuse to post anymore.
Not only the ones that cannot get out but others with problems or issues but use this board as a way out and get ridiculed for it....
Its such a shame

A disagreement and more happens on all boards and I believe them not to be as bad as they where years ago.....

No-one is going to agree all the time :-)

I read John's post slightly differently, and I may be wrong but I understood him to mean it would be easy for us to assume that everybody knows we have been ill etc. Somehow 'we' expect people to know but they obviously can't.

Sometimes things can be read differently to what the poster intends, and that can cause problems. We aren't all as good with words as some, and while in real life we get by with all the other means of communication it can't happen in chatrooms.

And haven't we all met someone (maybe some of you are that 'someone' ;-) ) who can say things that would get a entirely diferent reaction if anyone else said it. I worked with someone once, and on a daily basis I would be thinking 'How can she say that and get away with it?'. It's the same in chat :-S