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Uggers I do know what you mean, Sometimes I have needed to offload some of the worry to get my panic under control but I wouldnt air all our family problems .


Some folks dont have family/friends to surport them so their cyber friends can be a great comfort .If that helps then good on em !!

Shirley, I was thinking similarly about Jean - if she'd asked for support or sympathy for everything that went wrong for her in the last year or two of her life, she'd have faced the same stuff on here. It wasn't her bag to tell everyone anything and it isn't mine - in fact I cringe some of the stuff people put on here - but I manage to avoid those threads mostly

Well our daughter has gone through LOTS of crisis moments in her life. She has said to me "Mum I must be very wicked for all this crap that keeps happening". If you read some of the things she has endured you may think what?? Some things beggar belief and would make you think blimey you wouldn't want to make it up.
I have only posted sometimes for positive thoughts for her and been grateful for the kind thoughts and positive vibes sent for her and her family.
So what I am saying is that some people seem to get things happen to them all the time and can beggar belief on NO NOT AGAIN reactions. It doesn't mean it isnt true.
I wish she hadnt had such a hard times cos she is a lovely thoughtful girl who hasnt desrved the crap she got dished out. :-(

If I put all my problems on here you would not believe a word of it BUT those I know in person are the only ones who really need to believe a word I say the rest I dont care if you believe or not .....BUT I will listen to any advice anyone gives as it may be bl@@dy useful!!

The thread was out of hand when you started it, Suzanne.

I think some get a kick out of making up stories for the fun of it.
Some are better than others...they dont trip themselves up.
It would be a boring world if we were all the same.


Marion

Thanks Uggers, I've been trying to voice how I would say that. You've just summed it up perfectly for me.

Just read this thread and just read the 'Thoughts for Dutch' thread, both for the first time. People are entitled to believe or disbelieve what they want but I don't really see the need to challenge people unless others are getting hurt by things. Whatever I think of threads like these, all I see on the rare times I read them is people being kind and concerned. Why burst their bubbles or try to make them see things differently?

I've seen threads like these full of contradictions before and may even have challenged points myself but really - does it matter? I think some people need to step back from the boards at times and alter their perspective - if you feel the need to be unkind under the guise of being concerned, something's out of balance.

wow,
just shows how a thread gets out of hand.x

Er, why would I think that? -- that the post was about Jean?

I give up -- why would you ask me that? I didn't say I thought the post was about Jean. Wasn't what I said really quite clear?

I said:
It was apparently intended as one of those "polite" comments about someone without actually naming them, against which no one can defend themself, where some people are apparently in the know, and others, like poor Jean, are left feeling that they need to defend themselves.

Seems really quite clear to me.

I think it is very rude, rude in the extreme, to insinuate things about people in a public forum, and never come out and say what and whom one is talking about.

As I said, it leaves the person or people who are actually being talked about, if they know who they are, unable to defend themselves because they have not been named. All someone like you has to say is: Who, me? Talking about you? Why heavens to Betsy, what a thought.

And it leaves other people who feel they fit the description wondering whether they are the ones targeted and feeling that they must defend themselves.

I don't really care what or whom the subject of things like this is, or whether what's being insinuated is true or false. I've had this done to me in this place, the old "some posters ..." routine, and it stinks, no matter who it's done to.

You got some people to agree with whatever it was you were saying, and some who disagreed with you and them. Heaven knows what you expected.

I think that when one insinuates that some unnamed person or persons are lying, one should expect that not everyone within earshot will be agree or feel called upon to respond pleasantly to the insinuation.

I think that if one comes out and says what one means, one will at least be demonstrating one's own forthrightness, which it strikes me is wise if one is insinuating that someone else is lying.


"ive never said anything to offend anyone.general observation on a public forum"

Yeah, right.

And butter wouldn't melt.

janey,
the thread is about people not telling the truth.and no it was not about the person you mentioned(why would you think that?)and why was i rude?look through the thread,ive never said anything to offend anyone.general observation on a public forum.xx and yes a know im posting after 12.30 but i really thought people were fed up with my thread by now. xx if you want to post,please feel free.

No worries Suzanne.

Don't be put off from posting your views in the future on the back of this.

You pay your subs same as everyone else x

thank you muffy for your positive comment.i didnt say i was deleting the post,but i think that enough has been said now,if anyone wants to comment after 12.30 then they arefree to do that,but can feel an argument starting on here,and i dont want to start it lol.xxx

No, Suzanne, I have no idea what it's about.

It was apparently intended as one of those "polite" comments about someone without actually naming them, against which no one can defend themself, where some people are apparently in the know, and others, like poor Jean, are left feeling that they need to defend themselves.

I thought it was a little rude myself, just another one of those insinuations where someone seems to be talking about something but won't come out and say what. My own post was intended as a light-hearted comment on that. I still have no clue what the purpose or subject of the thread was.

I think you have the perfect right to give your opinion Suzanne and I agree with much of what you have said..

Have to say though..can't understand how the thread will close at 12.30 without deletion...which is what i also thought you meant.

I'm waiting for my puppy to have her last wee of the evening..and being the pedantic mare I am was going to post at 12.31 if she still hasn't *been* just for the hell of it lolololol

Don't take the negative comments to heart...you'll never get 100% agreement on here...but if i were you i'd stick to your guns..you've done nowt wrong x

didnt say i was deleting it did i?it was a debate on a public forum,if you dont like it dont post. if you have no idea about what this post is about,then why comment?,eh?
you did know what this post was about because you posted on page 2.xx

"Post stops at 12:30 a.m."

What -- that's when you decide to exercise private censorship by deleting it because you don't like what some people said?

I have no idea what any of this is about, myself.

"General observation" ....... just about nothing and no one in particular, eh?

I just think that if one doesn't want to hear what other people think, one doesn't express one's own opinion in public -- let alone invite others'.

Asking people a question and then just deleting their answers and the discussion that ensued -- pretty high-handed, in my own opinion.

Not I :)
Definitely empathising with Rose, coughing now for nearly two weeks :-(

ive decided to end this thread ,it started as a general observasion,on a public forum,everyone has the right to post their opinions wether its a positive post or a negative one,didnt expect the backlash that some negative posters got,in my opinion the negative posters spoke the truth,but sometimes the truth really hurts.thanks to everyone who posted,you have opened my eyes.xx feel free to add your comments,post stops at 12.30am.xx

wend
every one has their own opinions,x