General Chat

Thank you all for your words of kindness and for those who have lit candles. I appreciate the support friends and others give each other on these boards at times like these. Those who are on facebook with me only have to scroll and will see the heartbreaking conversations between myself and my Auntie. This Uncle is more than just an Uncle, he is a friend and he is my godparent and has had a big hand in helping to raise me and to see someone so special going through so much is almost unbearable, yet I'm finding an inner strength. Thank you again every word is a comfort x

They say that life is fleeting; I know that this is true.
I left this world so quickly, with no goodbye to you.
I know how much you miss me, your tears fall ever light.
The pillow where you lay your head, Is wet with them at night.
I know your heart is hurting, the words we left, unsaid.
I love you's left unspoken, are spinning in your head.
The strength that I have carried, that served to make you whole.
Remains to make you stronger, within your grieving soul.
For you see, while you were weeping, on the day I passed away
At the graveside near the flowers, where my loved ones knelt to pray.
An angel came to see me; she took me by the hand,
She led me to a kingdom in a very distant land.
As I look down from the heaven, and see you standing there
Your heart so ever burdened with more weight than it can bear.
I long to bring you comfort, I long to give you peace,
I long to hold you closely, and cause all your tears to cease.
The joy I've found in heaven goes far beyond compare.
The love that's so elusive, Can be found here everywhere.
The light is softly shining. There's no storm clouds here or rain.
There's no tear drops found in heaven. There's no suffering, there's no pain.
You needn't be so troubled, Stay close to God and pray
That someday we'll be together, one bright and glorious day.
So my love, you shouldn't question my dear you need not cry
I've gone to be with Jesus I really didn't die.

same old same old,

what happens ,,,someones seems its fit to someone a MORON,.now aint that just dandy to get retaliation.

Footie, thinking of you and hoping you can find comfort in knowing there are friends on here for you.
Take care,

Cath xx

leave it now Julia please this thread is Mels

Erm, Jenexx, what about I defend Mel's right to solace on here, etc.. She knows more than anybody what I mean. I do not have to use any other words
Oh, I did not see you attacking anyone else that had something to say to, or about Amy, and until she posted on the thread, everybody showed their feelings and support for Mel.
Julia in Derbyshire

Julia
I read your post and not one word of comfort from you to Mel
Jenxx

I would truly rather give the benefit of the doubt than contribute to someone's unhappiness by making horrid comments.

I wish you the best Footie.

S x

i agree rose ....a little TLC goes a long way..

Jennxx Yes I agree with you that I do bring it up again, and yes it is Mel's thread, but I was not the first one on here to mention the subject of Amy. It is only a month ago that she created mayhem on another of Mel's threads.
I do feel for Mel at this time, and if you had read what I said properly, you would have seen that I was defending Mel to the hilt.
If she ever gets on one of year threads, then maybe you will see what I mean
Julia in Derbyshire

It comes down to this I think

Even if you have no personal liking for someone who posts seeking sympathy or support, even if you might suspect they are exaggerating or may be a hypochondriac or even that they may be lying outright... it doesn't take much to avoid responding...and it takes even less to give the benefit of the doubt and think that whatever 'the truth' behind the post the poster is not coping very well with what life is throwing at them.

We don't all cope the same, you see that on here every day...there are people whose stoicism in the face of appalling illness is beyond my comprehension,
and there are others who look for sympathy for lesser things. Maybe that is down to the sort of life one has lived, or down to the care we got as children or just down to sheer bloody-mindedness "I can cope so I will " kind of thing lol.

I think a bit of sympathy, whether it's deserved or otherwise, does no harm and might actually do as much for the state of mind of the giver as of the recipient.

Hope things improve for you Mel, and for anyone who needs a bit of support today for whatever reason .

good morning Mel
thinking of you at this sad time always here for you xxxx

love Jen xxxxx
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Just a quick note here
Please Amy take your gripes some other thread
and Julia please ignore Amy you say the same thing every time Amy posts
so let this be Mels thread

Footie - you sound very melancholy and 'melancholia' is an illness, so watch that you don't get too far 'down'.
You no doubt are feeling for your Mum, if these uncles are her brothers, but whether or not, they are in the age group when they start leaving us, and you have known them all your life. As well, you have lost your brother, and your Mum lost her son, so you have every good reason to feel as you do. If you feel that prayer helps, then by all means pray, but if you feel you are not being true to your faith, don't worry about that. If you can support your Mum, your faith will come back to you when you are ready. Please try to get on with things and let your Mum see you can do that, otherwise she will be worried about you as well as the older ones.

I've held back from posting on this thread since 6.30 this morning, when reading it, to calm down. How can anyone come on a thread like this and make mayhem, as was done at 23.33 by, yet again Amy. Why she is tolerated on this site I do not know. She never makes a post, unless it is attacking someones upset, or ill fortune, in the most vilest of tones.
Footie and I, and we will both readily agree, are not what you would call the busom buddies, but I will defend her right to outpour her sadness at this time in her life, in the hope of gaining some sore of solace, instead of ridicule.
Strange how she only appeared in the guise of Amy when our very own Empress, left us. I feel no coincidence in this, as Halys., would have given here what for, in no uncertain terms.
Again, shame on you Amy, you are despicable, as usual.
Absolutely Disgusted
Julia in Derbyshire.

Aah, I thought we had been quiet on here for a while and here is Amy come to 'liven things up' (not). Just ignore, Mel.

amy ... we all cope with our burdens in different ways ,there is no need for your remark..you could have just ignored the thread..

until you have walked a few miles in anyone shoes...you dont know how they suffer,

stay strong mel....((((((((hug))))))))

xxx

Take care Footie - life is throwing a curve at you but it will pass and your faith will carry you through.

(((((((HUGS for you Mel )))))))
I have lit a candle for you .
Hazelx xxxx

Twin ((((hug)))) x