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but last nite when in total despair I heard my Nan's words ... and she said them often enough to me "when its hardest to pray, pray your hardest". Some of you know I'm having a bad time of it lately and it all totally beyond me. I lost an Uncle the weekend - he hadn't been ill but he left us anyway, my cousin is ill and has had an op but it will be a few days before we know if its worked or not and my closest Uncle is seriously ill, the family have been told they need to decide whether or not to discontinue treatment or not. Today is also the anniversary of my brothers death he would have been 43 yesterday - he's my guardian angel and feel him v much today. Please forgive me if I do or say the wrong thing my my burden is heavy and I can find no rest (more of my Nan's words). Thank you to all those who have shown me kindness and supported me just lately I would not have got through without you.

You say what you feel lovie ((((hugs))))
Rachx

Thanks Rach am just off to light a new candle x

I will to hun and I have pm'd you x

Oh Footie, I believe that we haven,t "talked" to each other before but the sadness you managed to send simply begged a reply.
Life can be very cruel sometimes and we find it hard to understad why such sad things and burdensome trials and tribulations come our way.

Maybe some one up there knows that we will manage somehow, with good friends and faith,,for I truly do believe in faith.

I shall add you to my daily quiet time , which is usually in the early hours of the morning, I sit and try to see the good things in life and then silently I talk to someone I believe in and ask that the people on my list are supported and helped in such difficult times. I also thank him for the help and resolutions he has given to others.


Prayers and quiet thoughs are sent to you

Bridget

Thanks Rach just been to candle site and seen your candle. I love that site it also makes me feel at peace. My Mum is a GR member and uses it to so it will be a comfort for her to see too. x

Thank you Bridget for your kind words and thoughts. My own faith is very weak right now and my words seem very inadquate. I can't quite put my thoughts into words. x

Mel, I am sorry that you are down and that your faith is weak just when you need it to be strong. Listen to your Nan Mel, she was obviously a very wise woman. Often things happen in our lives that we can just find no reason for, people suffer who are the 'good' ones in our lives and people die who we feel didn't deserve to. I can't offer any advice on this but I am sure if you can find the ability to return to your faith and prayer you will feel more at peace with yourself.

thank you for your Kind words Ann. Am going to try and get some rest tomorrow will be a very long day. x

But as I said Mel A NEW DAY!

Twin ((((hug)))) x

(((((((HUGS for you Mel )))))))
I have lit a candle for you .
Hazelx xxxx

Take care Footie - life is throwing a curve at you but it will pass and your faith will carry you through.

stay strong mel....((((((((hug))))))))

xxx

amy ... we all cope with our burdens in different ways ,there is no need for your remark..you could have just ignored the thread..

until you have walked a few miles in anyone shoes...you dont know how they suffer,

Aah, I thought we had been quiet on here for a while and here is Amy come to 'liven things up' (not). Just ignore, Mel.

I've held back from posting on this thread since 6.30 this morning, when reading it, to calm down. How can anyone come on a thread like this and make mayhem, as was done at 23.33 by, yet again Amy. Why she is tolerated on this site I do not know. She never makes a post, unless it is attacking someones upset, or ill fortune, in the most vilest of tones.
Footie and I, and we will both readily agree, are not what you would call the busom buddies, but I will defend her right to outpour her sadness at this time in her life, in the hope of gaining some sore of solace, instead of ridicule.
Strange how she only appeared in the guise of Amy when our very own Empress, left us. I feel no coincidence in this, as Halys., would have given here what for, in no uncertain terms.
Again, shame on you Amy, you are despicable, as usual.
Absolutely Disgusted
Julia in Derbyshire.

Footie - you sound very melancholy and 'melancholia' is an illness, so watch that you don't get too far 'down'.
You no doubt are feeling for your Mum, if these uncles are her brothers, but whether or not, they are in the age group when they start leaving us, and you have known them all your life. As well, you have lost your brother, and your Mum lost her son, so you have every good reason to feel as you do. If you feel that prayer helps, then by all means pray, but if you feel you are not being true to your faith, don't worry about that. If you can support your Mum, your faith will come back to you when you are ready. Please try to get on with things and let your Mum see you can do that, otherwise she will be worried about you as well as the older ones.

good morning Mel
thinking of you at this sad time always here for you xxxx

love Jen xxxxx
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Just a quick note here
Please Amy take your gripes some other thread
and Julia please ignore Amy you say the same thing every time Amy posts
so let this be Mels thread

It comes down to this I think

Even if you have no personal liking for someone who posts seeking sympathy or support, even if you might suspect they are exaggerating or may be a hypochondriac or even that they may be lying outright... it doesn't take much to avoid responding...and it takes even less to give the benefit of the doubt and think that whatever 'the truth' behind the post the poster is not coping very well with what life is throwing at them.

We don't all cope the same, you see that on here every day...there are people whose stoicism in the face of appalling illness is beyond my comprehension,
and there are others who look for sympathy for lesser things. Maybe that is down to the sort of life one has lived, or down to the care we got as children or just down to sheer bloody-mindedness "I can cope so I will " kind of thing lol.

I think a bit of sympathy, whether it's deserved or otherwise, does no harm and might actually do as much for the state of mind of the giver as of the recipient.

Hope things improve for you Mel, and for anyone who needs a bit of support today for whatever reason .

Jennxx Yes I agree with you that I do bring it up again, and yes it is Mel's thread, but I was not the first one on here to mention the subject of Amy. It is only a month ago that she created mayhem on another of Mel's threads.
I do feel for Mel at this time, and if you had read what I said properly, you would have seen that I was defending Mel to the hilt.
If she ever gets on one of year threads, then maybe you will see what I mean
Julia in Derbyshire