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Yes, but he is well dead, so that's ok...my karma is now harmonious...lolol...BCXX

Hate is a very strong word...

i have never hated anyone, although i came quite close with my mother...

I hated someone but that hate was colouring my life not this person's so now I dislike intensely and also feel sorry for someone who thought the grass was greener on the other side and is now lonely and sad.

Sue xx

I'm going off BC... she just made me cry :( lol

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Edit my post - I hate Muffy!

Not sure really. Sometimes when I have felt dislike for people it's been so intense that it's probably hate but it doesn't last long with me.

I must be a bit weird......I don't really have a problem with hating people !!!!

There is someone in the real world I hate and it hasn't coloured my life or made me bitter.......99.9% of the time I don't have to have any contact whatsoever and for the .1% where I do I find the hate very useful ......I have no desire to forgive and forget and feel totally comfortable feeling like I do !!!
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That's good, Rose:-) lol BCXX

Me either, Muffy. Hate's a healthy natural feeling as long as it doesn't affect your life much.

I think maybe the difference between intense dislike and hate is that with dislike , if they apologised sincerely I would forgive them...with the one person I hate, they could apologise forever and mean it...and I still would not forgive them :))

And I am fine with that.

I know who you're talking about Muffy, and you have good reason to feel that way. Still not convinced it's actual hate though, to me, hate produces action that is negative and harmful, and I know, as much as you gob off, you wouldn't deliberately harm anyone lol

Rose, agree, I had a tear in my eye, until I got to one certain line, then I cracked up! LOL

I love the opening music to the sweeney...

I wouldn't HURT them........well.......I may bash em one if they pushed their luck too far....... but I wouldn't deliberately and cruelly hurt them !!!!
Having said that.........I DO laugh when I hear of any misfortune that may have befallen them !!! sorry !!! lol xx

You see, this is where I get confused. Some have said, yes I hate someone but I don't bother with them.

Surely that's just anger isn't it? Hate to me is all-consuming, sparking actions which we may otherwise never consider. Hate is the terrorists who planted the bombs on the tube, or the ones who flew the planes into the twin towers, hate is the suicide bombers who blow innocent women and children to pieces.

And I can't bring myself to feel that level of negative emotion, not even for them. But I can feel anger, even intensely, at the unjustice and stupidity of it all.

Hate to me is just non forgiving with no hope of a reprieve intense dislike...........

I wouldn't even begin to try and attach human emotion to what terrorists do tbh....I don't think we've even created a word for what can propel a person to behave in such a depraved way xx

Ok it was an extreme example, but I'm just trying to illustrate how damaging hate is.

I think hate is like any other emotion, you don't have to act on it just cos you feel it - just cos someone fills me with such an overpowering feeling I want to smash them over the head with a wok, doesn't mean I do it.

Wok? Cast iron saucepan would make a much nicer sound !!! LOLOLOLOL xx

Can I borrow your wok Uggers ?........lol what a great image...death by wok :)

Well a wok doesn't dent, see:)