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sally I agree with what you say but having been involved with a situation like this womans myself to a degree , the education side of things is way down the list of worries .:-)

Sally - I can see where you are coming from on this, as I too have seen threads that have made me think twice, just lately. One had my alarm bells ringing almost from the beggining, and ran for about ten days, with the person seemingly to ignore all the very good advice she was given, before she huffed her way off the boards. This advice, if paid for, would have cost a mint. I think you are right to advise stepping back.
Julia in Derbyshire

What gets me is that this poor kid, who has probably seen stuff no adult would want to, will have their education totally disrupted because one human being can't or won't behave themselves properly.

Well said, Sally.

It makes me cringe at times when I see the way people leap instantly to help offering electoral role look ups, 192.com info and all sorts of advice without thinking about the consequences.

I'm sure the help is well intentioned, but I also feel that at times it's almost like a contest to see who can be the first to find clues.

Owng to my former profession, I have the knowledge and probably access to the resources to find anyone anywhere in the UK. There is absolutely no way I would do it at all. If an adult person wants to remain anonymous, who has the right to attempt to breach that wish.

Wise words Sally.................and just because the poster uses a name and gives their details, we can't really know who they are can we?

Finding living relatives for a stranger could be the road to heartbreak.

I hope that poor lady and her children find safety and peace of mind.

well put sally I hope members read this and take notice:-)

Just lately there have been a few threads on here looking for living people, parents, children, siblings etc. And while I sympathise with those genuinely lookking for family can I just show people why we have to be so careful when doing so.
I work in a school. Last week we had a young child start with us on the Tuesday. This Monday the Mum popped in to ask about uniform jumpers, book bags etc after she had dropped her child off for registration. Child was happy at school, had made friends settling down to a new life.
By morning break Mum had rushed back to the school, seen the Head, grabbed child and disappeared into the wide blue yonder.
It turns out they were in a refuge and the lady's abusive partner had tracked them down and was heading to the town to do God knows what to the Mum and possibly the child.
So we have one child who's education is going to be totally piecemeal because Mum and them have to keep one step ahead of someone who can't be trusted to treat them like human beings.
Moral of the story: When someone asks for help in tracing another person and possibly their child take a step back and think twice. Even the most untrustworthy person can put on an act to get people's sympathy and help intracking others down.