General Chat

pmsl nope I aint ya councellor hun but maybe I picked up a few tips from my old one lol

Tina - i appreciate your efforts hun lol




I know i shouldn't feel sorry for myself - i know there are others with worse or more significant problems than me

but that doesn't make my problems and worries any less significant

maybe i'm being selfish ??? maybe i am - but maybe my mum is too ..........

i wonder if she has stopped to think who will be around to help me when i reach her age

No One - that's who ...............

No you are not being selfish so you can stop that! lol

My "sister" (who is actually what was my foster mother's daughter) and I are very close. We look after her mum and who I also call mum. She does not do any cooking except for a slice of toast. And does not do any major housework.

I dont even get a cup of tea made for me on a saturday when I visit - well 9 times out of 10 anyway, I have said in front of her to my sister - I dont know who is going to look after us when we reach Mother's age and makes us a cuppa! LOL

In which case I think we should set up a home for all of us *No ones* LOL.

I appreciate what you are saying, each individual has his or her own problems but when they are your problems it is you that has to cope with them and not anybody else.

We can only try and lighten that burden and hope that you come through the other end with a smile on your face and that tomorrow is another day (a better day).

Lots of hugs
Tina xxxxxx

Anita..................your Mum is being totally selfish, she wants her son living where she can have lovely free holidays and you set up nearby in case she ever gets old and frail.

Our children are absolutely NOT expected to look after us in our dotage.................we raised them to be responsible adults and go their own way with their lives.

If they want to help out when we are less able...........wonderful, if not, equally so.

As for you being selfish..................if you were, you wouldn't worry about what other people thought of your life choices, would you:))

Now, chin up, shoulders back and think of all the positive things around you.................one is being able to post on here and have we strangers taking the time to help you.

Not because we have to..............but because we care:)))

*polishes halo and falls off soapbox*

xx

Put me down for a place please, Harpy, as my son keeps telling me he will put me in a Home, so I want to get there before he does! Maybe, Anita, you should say the same to your Mum (in a jocular fashion of course)....BC XXX

*glares at Anita for calling herself selfish*
x

hey BC my son says the same
hope my girls feel different

i look after my mum she lives with us after a stroke 7yrs ago my brother who i know lives 3hrs away phones about once a month and has visited twice
at least those of us who do what we can, can hold our head up
chris x

OK, will do BC. What a hoot we all would have, can you just imagine it LOL

I for one will be sat on a mobile incontinence chair, waving me walking stick around at all the *youngsters* !

Tina xxx

Well said Kitty too *helps you up from your stumble off yer soap box and helps readjust your halo* lol xx

Anita ya not being selfish and yes others do have problems dont mean your arent important.

We all have down times in our lives and when the rest of us do you are always one of the first to be there offering support, so shut it and let us make a fuss of ya ;o)

Well done Chris. I often wish I had also had a daughter, although I love my son to bits. But I agree with Kitty, we have our children and send them off in the world and wish them fulfilled and happy lives. If they take care of us in our old age, then that is a bonus. BC XX

absolutely BC and Kitty
i would rather that as long as they visit me now and again

i went to pick my daughter up some time ago in the nursing home she works in they invited me in to wait, as i sat inthe lounge i had an awful vision of the future
lol
i,ll be the cantakerous one like the granny on the katherine tate show lol
chris x

Thanks again everyone ..............

haven't cried this much in ages - but i have felt it coming on all weekend

i dunno wots wrong with me but i hate being like this

i;ve been doin so well upto now since i came off the prescription meds

i like being chirpy and happy and busy

i don't like feeling like the weight of the world is baring down on me and it's too much effort to even smile or be cheerful

i need a hug but got no one to go to for one

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))

You are welcome to as many virtual hugs as you like :)))))))))))

It will pass Anita................if not, please please go back to the doctor.

I put it off once...............never again:((

xx

Anita,Lots and Lots of Hugs.Harry.xxxx.

(((((HUGS)))))

from me too

hope being on here is helping a little bit
chris x

Oh Anita here's a (((((((((((((HUG))))))))))
I feel guiltly leaving my mom in UK even though she now lives with my sister - they had 2 weeks holiday from each other and 2 days later mom phones me up moaning about - yes,. thats right, my sister!!!! But as has already been said you only have one life and there are no replays - this one is for real., Have a good cry then order the kitchen and find someone to fit it after - surely in 2 weeks you can find someone.
You take care
Love Mary xx

Anita

Sending big ((((HUGS)))) for you.

I was going to put a huggie thread up over the road, but I thought I'd better ask you first if you minded.

In case you don't want me to I'll send you some more ((((((hugs)))))) on here.

Sue
xx

((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))

from me too

julia xx

ANITA
I GOT OH

BUT DO I GET A HUG

I HAVE TO CRY IN THE LOO
I HATE MY LIFE
EXCEPT FOR A ESCAPE WITH FRIENDS

COUPLE OF TIMES A YEAR

THATS ALL I GOT

THATS IT NOW IM BAWLING
ME EYES OUT

Sending Dizzy a (((((((((HUG))))))))))) too.
Love Mary xx