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Colin
He probley has done a bit to much know what they are like and will feel better in a day or two after a rest hugs for you all
Valxxx

thinking of you try to keep smiling i know its hard sending you the biggest hug ever

Colin-
sending my love to you and hoping your parents will be ok-maybe when they settle down in their new home things will improve. The stress must have been awful for them.
your a good son-and I know you will watch over them.

sending ((((((((hugs)))))) and support to you.
as always
catherine
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Thanks Everyone for your support.

I just seem to break down at times and find things building up and becoming so hard. It seems hard to stand back, you seem to realize that independance is something you should respect but have this awful feeling that I should be doing more. Unfortunately as I say dad is very proud and hard to get through to him that he should seek further help. My sister is a Practice Sister at one of our local surgeries and thinks I am really strong but inside I am weak and in a way just like my dad, to proud to say its hurting me like hell knowing they are both in health decline.

Today is Dads birthday, he used to play in an harmonica band years ago, today he also gave me his treasured harmonicas, he knows I can play also and told me to look after them as he did.

I cant even play a complete tune at this moment without breaking down in tears.

Oh Blessyour heart Colin, as the others have said it is hard to see your parents get frailer.......(((((hugs)))))) for you.....x

Sending you big (((HUGS))) xx

Colin a ((((( hug ))))) for you and a (((((hug))))) for your parents,it must be a stressful time for all of you.x

How hard is it to watch and feel so helpless. My heart goes out to you Colin.

Thinking of you and your parents - and special birthday wishes to your dad.

xxxxxxx

Colin, sending positive thoughts and love to you, your dad and your mum. Does your sister know how your dad is at the moment?
Perhaps a call to the NHS help line will help you decide what you should do.

Take care

maggie xxx

((((((((hugs)))))))) to you Colin.

I hope your Dad's health settles down soon. Hopefully it is just the stress of the move that caused his problems today, and he will soon be feeling better.

Sue
xx

Maybe its been stressful for him and hes got in a bit of a state about the move,,

keep ringing home Colin just to put your mind at rest,,,,,plenty of wishes for you,,,,,


do they have a red alert button??

aww, Colin , what the hell can I say??
but I hope My sons turn out like you!!
God bless you!!
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Colin, it's not weak to feel hurting, its not weak to admit it, and its not weak to be proud either so get that thought out of your head.

YOu have decorated the bungalow throughout, you have helped your parents move, you have done your best by them, what more can you do.

Of course where your dad refuses to ask for help, you can always get round that. ie you just happened to have your power drill in the car so you'll hang that picture for them, or you just happened to be at Tescos so got some essentials for them. You can always 'just happen' to have something or be doing something, make it sound like an afterthought. Don't let them refuse, just do it, or put the shopping in the cupboard as if you haven't heard them. Call the doctor without asking if you feel they need one, tell them off if need be. Tell them YOU are worried and want your mind put at rest. How many times have they worried about you? It's your turn now.

You dont' have to be there all the time, but jsut pop round and keep an eye on them. Maybe you can make out you are returning a favour, or even want one in return. (Just a cake recipe will do LOL)

We used to have to do that with my Gran, it was devious but it worked.

colin hun sending u a big (((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))


luv
stray
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Hi Colin, just about to go to bed, but wanted to say, I am thinking about you. "Just listen to all what the lovely members are saying to you"

We all know that your doing your 'Best-est'
Hope all gets better for your Parents.

Jenny xx

It's awell known fact that moving home is one of the three most strenuous things anyone can do. We moved house while I was suffering from angina and waiting for a triple by-pass and for almost the only time in my life I nearly passed out in the street. I had the op 7yrs ago and am now getting shortness of breath if I hurry or walk uphill, and have to use my spray occasionally. Get your Dad to have a check-up using the stress of the move as an excuse, but rest assured the discomfort is not constant and you learn to live within your limits which is sometimes frustrating but better than the alternative. I am sure he gets a great deal of comfort in knowing you are around though he may not say so. Good on you for caring. Jean

Colin

big hugs for you

d xxxx

Colin,

A massive (((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))) for you. What a wonderful son you are to care so much.

Sue xx

)))))))))))))))))hugs(((((((((((((((((((
Hope your mam and dad settle soon, and your dad feels better soon. It must be really hard to restart in a new home at theie time of life.
keep your chin up xx

Thank you All for your lovely support and advice it really is appreciated and I shall certainly take it on board.. Ive cried myself stupid again but I feel a little better for doing so.

I managed to persuade Virgin/NTL to put a phone in on an emergency basis so lucky enough that is fully functional and we didnt have to wait.

There are no red alert buttons as yet but certainly something to give serious consideration to I think.

Mum and Dad have moved not far from my sister who has been popping in on a regular basis also.

Hopefully and this is where some of the problem may lie she will be able to perusade Dad to go for that check up. Although he is very proud of my sister being a nurse, sometimes he also rebels a little at her suggestions saying he is OK.