Genealogy Chat

Ann, People that rude are not worth getting upset over. They are the ones ruining the spirit of Genes. Forget them. Crista

Ann, Don't feel bad. I will only open my Tree if there is the likelihood of a link. I have had many 'Can I view your Tree?' messages but refuse to do so unless I am given sufficient information to indicate a possibility. I always ask which part of my Tree they think they link to. Jim

How rude of them. I always work out if there's a connection before allowing access to my tree - you're totally in the right. Best wishes Jacquie

Hi Ann, As the others say, don't take it to heart - the problem is with the other person. I had a request to view my tree the other day, no names or anything. I said I'd be delighted, but who in particular was he researching......... no reply! so obviously he didn't get access - his loss, not mine! Most people on here are wonderfully kind, there's just the odd few ..... Best wishes, Gordon.

Jenny, if they have put your name or husbands name on without permission ask for them to be removed, if they won't report it to GR. Ros

Hello Ann, Sorry to learn that you have had a bad experience with someone asking to view your tree. I am very cautious now giving access to my tree. I agree with the principle of exchanging information but only where it is relevant. I haver recently discovered that someone I gave access to view my tree ,because I thought there was a connection between us, has been systematically adding my tree to theirs. Starting with the supposed connection, they have added all my paternal relatives down through to me then back up through my maternal line and then started on my husband's relatives through his paternal and maternal line. I have now withdrawn access. Jenny Jenny

Ann, Sadly I think a lot of us have encountered this sort of idiot before. Don't take it personally - just ignore them or contact abuse. Paul x

Ann, please report the person to GR Abuse and they will block contact between you if you wish. I have done this myself. GR Abuse are very helpful. Joy

You just can't win with some people. Just ignore them Ann, as you say you will remember the name from now on. There is no excuse for rudeness, but today some just don't care. At the end of the day it is their loss. I have had a few messages from people wanting contact, but the information they have is so scant that a link would be impossible, saying that someone did contact me to ask if my Edward Jones was connected to hers, fat chance I thought. He was connected and we are related. Enjoy the rest of your day Ros

Ann, ignore it, please. There obviously wasn't a genuine connection. They're probably name gatherers LOL. Otherwise, why the nastiness to you. Wish I knew the name then if they've a 'connection' to me I'll ignore as well. HaHa, Jan

speaking of which i have just this moment had a message from the person saying 'please cease your messages to me' The last mesage i sent this morning, before starting this thread, was to say 'I have tried to give you access but you are not on my contacts list' is it me or is there something wrong with that? at the time I had had a change of heart and decidd to try to help. i am so glad now that i couldn't. Oh yes, and I have a long memory for names so wont be helping that one again. Ann glos

HOPEFULLY Ann because they now realise they've not done the right thing, being rude to you. You did the right thing and if they were genuine they'd have given you more to go on. As was said earlier, don't give the person a second thought. It would be a waste of energy. Chin up. Jan :-))

I do find it strange that someone who had so much to say has not come forward to defend themselves. strange world!! Ann Glos

Thank you so much jonathan. ann glos

Ann, Can I just say I echo all the nice things said in reply to your posting? This is a decent website for decent people hopefully and anyone who is genuine in wanting to find their relatives will be touched by your letter. Sorry to add to the strand of postings but I was sufficiently moved to read your posting. Jonathan, Surrey x

Thank you for your advice frank, much appreciated. Ann glos And Mandy, thank you for what you said.. i do appreciate it. Love & hugs Ann

I have seen the message that was sent to Ann and I am truly disgusted. Thank goodness that rude people like the sender are in the minority on this site. I had the privilege of meeting Ann recently, having been in regular contact with her for some time now, and I consider her a true friend. She is one of the nicest people on this site, always polite and helpful, never getting involved in messy situations that occur. The sender of the message is an extremely ignorant person, accusing Ann of things that we know she would never be guilty of! Particularly on a day like today when we are all so very sad at losing one of our precious friends and GR members, it is regrettable that somebody has to act like this. Ann - you are worth so much more than this person! Love and hugs, Mandy xx

I think this person can't know me very well. The membership number is 7 figures and starts with 4 so a fairly new member. not that that is any exxcuse for not being polite. Ann glos

Ann, I am so very sorry, that was awful. I hope you never hear from that person again. We are all here to help one another, manners costs nothing, and that person should be ashamed of his / herself. keep your chin up, Joy

Ann Anyone who acts like that dosent deserve a second thought.