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Am I Being Too Harsh??
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Sheleen | Report | 3 Jul 2005 23:37 |
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Are you being harsh?....Not at all! What can they possibly be 'just checking' with no idea of who they are checking for? If they need info on a particular person in your tree, then it would be easy enough to swap information and see if a particular person is common between you... But to ask to see a tree with no idea what you're looking for sounds a bit suss to me. I think you did the right thing... and it seems from what you have written here that you were very polite about it all... so don't dwell on it :) |
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Kate | Report | 3 Jul 2005 23:36 |
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No you are not, why on earth can't they tell you what makes them think your family is connected to theirs? Sounds suspicious to me given the things we were hearing about a certain person adding everybody's trees to his own not that long ago. Kate. |
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Sam | Report | 3 Jul 2005 23:33 |
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I received the standard 'Please Can I View Your Tree' message today. I replied, asking who in particular they were interested in. They replied to me: Not sure Sam, but would just like to check. You have already got permission to view mine. I have checked and don't have permission to view any tree that I didn't already have. So, I sent a response: 'Sorry for sounding suspicious but I get lots of these requests from people who are not related to me at all. I have done years of research to get the 500+ people in my tree and don't mind sharing this information with someone who can tell me where we are related. People who just want to look, I need to know more info - there have been many tales of people 'stealing' other peoples trees and adding them to their own. My tree has come about through my own hard work visiting records offices and searching parish records etc - I'm not going to give it away to someone who can't even give me an idea of why they are interested in my tree. I don't appear to have permission to view your tree (I'm only looking to see if we have an ancestor in common!) and I'm sorry, but unless you can give me a specific name, I'm not about to give you access to mine. I'm sorry if I sound harsh but I need more information before I disclose anything' Do you think I am being too harsh, should I have allowed access, even if only for a limited time? Sam x |
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Sam | Report | 3 Jul 2005 23:32 |
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