Genealogy Chat

Jess, I don't know what has happened, as I have rarely visited the boards recently - but I am sorry to learn that once again you have been upset. Please do not delete your threads re adoption - so many people gain a great deal of personal support from them, whilst others, including myself, enjoy reading them. We are touched by the stories of others, in a realm we ourselves will never experience, due to differing personal circumstances. This is a family history site and adoption is an important topic. Jay

Jess Don't do it Glen xx

Nice one Sheila.

Just nipped in quick, had a quick look on general board the thread in question has gone and there is a public apology from one of the contibutors. From what I have read the majority of people are saying 'JESS DON'T GO' For what it is worth Jess, whilst I have not looked closely at the adoption threads as I have no need of them in my own life or research you appear to be offering a much needed forum/service for those who are in fact in need put whatever title you like on it but from what I can see it offers support, comfort, advice, clarification, someone to listen and share with, and enables people to know they are not alone and or to make life changing decisions about thier own lives. To my mind that is 'counselling' which takes many forms. From an outsider PLEASE KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK and do not allow small apparantly jealous minded people to spoil what you do for those who need it.

jess dont do this u have been big help to many on here, there is a apology from someone on here or general board about u, stay helping us lot. take care,

Oh Jess, dont let small minded people influence the great work you do on here. The hardest job in the world is being a parent and raising the next generation, but none of us have got certificates or diplomas saying we are qualified to do the job. I would not hesitate to ask your advice on any aspect of family history or adoption, whether you have a piece of paper or not it's life experience that has given you your qualifications. Georgina.

Hi Jess, I don't know what went on, but just wanted to say don't let some nasty people make you remove threads that people obviously find helpful because of how many posts are on them. I'm my opinion people who haved LIVED through an experience are far more qualified to help and support than anyone else with a long line of letters after their name! In my case I miscarried a baby at 5 months, The counsellor from the hospital came to see me and to be honest she didn't have a clue how I felt. I then joined a group on msn of women that had all been through the same as me.I can't begin to tell you how much help and support those ladies gave me, they actually KNEW how I felt even when I didn't make a lot of sense. Don't give those nasty people the satisfaction of seeing your threads removed!!! Linda xxxx

Hi Jess I didn't see the thread by THC but i am sure this person through something they had said make another person delete their thread. You are better than them and do a lot to help other people. DON'T DO IT Julie

Hi Linda You have echoed what I have said before, no doubt there is a place for proffessional counsellors, should anyone feel the need for their help, but Jess' s thread put adoptees in touch with each other to discuss and support each other.I live abroad like a few other adoptess, and yet we now have a support system on here, whereby, if a fellow adoptee needs help they can click onto this thread or our name and be in touch with someone to help them through this, far more important than someone proffesional qualifications and background, someone with hand on experience, who has expericed how traumatic this can be. Sheila

I made an incorrect assumption about Jess, for which I have apologised, and I'm pleased that she has accepted my apology. I would also like to add to this thread and say to Jess, please don't remove your threads, there isn't any need, and it would be playing right into HC's hands (I can now see that he/she probably had an ulterior motive). Mandy

Jess. What on earth has gone on?? I can not understand what has made you so upset(have not seen the offending thread) but from another thread that the so called Claw has left, he/she is an adoptee too. Please Jess i ask you to reconsider. I, as a mother who had to give up her child find comfort and reasurance from your threads.(and PMed you for advice). Look at how many names and threads there are. Jess, you are needed here. No matter what some faceless person who hides behind an alias says. Look at the amount of friends you have on this site. And the amount of people you have helped. You are the listening post, the crying corner and the reasuring one. Please do not do it!! Vanessa

Due to the consensus being that they should stay, then i will leave them.If however, the nastiness starts agian they'll go. that IS a promise

Hi Jess.... I saw that nasty thread last night,don't know how bad it got this morning, but you shouldn't delete your threads, due to some idiot......... Mea..... A Fellow Northamptonion

I am pleased to see that they will stay. I did see the offending thread, Jess.

jess youve given so much to so many. dont take any c**p.

I'm glad you've decided not to delete the threads that so many people have benefited from Jess. I imagine I'm one of the small minded people that's been referred to but as I said my objection was nothing to do with you or your threads.

Jess, So pleased you have decided to keep the threads running. It's obvious that it has meant so much to so many. Take heart from that and nevermind those that snipe about.

I am just SSSOOOOO pleased - I am speechless (That's a 1st for me - ask my husband)!. There is a Rosie Posie on the board who needs your advice. I am sure you will be able to help. Dea Xxx

Jess, I can only recipricate what other people on this thread have been saying which is keep at it girl! If whoever doesn't want to read your thread they don't have to, but obviously its helped a lot of people on here so I think you should continue.... if it makes one person's life happier then its worth it.

Jess - I have just signed in tonight and was appauled - spelling gone to pot - to read this thread. Such a relief when I got to the bit where you say you will stay on. I tried to post last night but something weird with computor - someone said delete my nudges so I did, have not checked back if postings came up. Was burying my dog. Your threads are truly a lifeline, and I have 'met' so many helpful people through them. I did not see whatever it was. General seems very shallow and flippant and I don't look there much now. please keep going for us if you do not find the burden too heavy Eileen