Genealogy Chat

Hi All I too dont mind sharing my findings.... but what I get really frustrated by.. is someone who contacts you and does have a connection to your tree... and as soon as they get access to my tree copy all of the family to their tree without so much as a Thankyou or an exchange of Info..... Very Frustrating.... Then you never hear from them again... Mo

The art in sharing info is to carefully discover who are the good eggs and who are the bad eggs! Both kinds exist in the genealogical community. Some like to TELL you all about their wonderful photos and info while others SHOW you. Show don't tell!! I think you can usually tell pretty quick who is all talk and no do! ;-) Then you can reward or not reward them as the case may be. Just give them one bit of info or one picture and see how willing they are to reciprocate before you go the whole hog! ;-) Cheers, Horatia

I have made a lot of great connections on GR and have had a lot of pleasure sharing info and supplying someone else with stuff they didnt have,,its a wonderful feeling and i have no problems sharing my tree with confirmed contacts, I remember someone who got in touch with me and confirmed that her hubby and mine shared the same 3 x great grandparents but then argued with me that one of the grandfathers married a totally different lady to the one that i had and that she knew it to be correct because someone else had given the info to her,,!! I had to say to her,,,,well i have the marriage certificate so if you would a copy to confirm,,im happy to send you one, Now i notice that her genes tree has the correct surname..lol..

I just remembered that one tree i have access too and a recent hot match to 2 names show how some people work. The tree has 4-5000 names,the hot match was to a name shared by both myself and the large tree owner. I sent a message to the hot match tree owner,who responded that they were direct line descendant of the names but the tree had been compiled by 'xxxx who has a tree of over 4000 names' We are all first cousins three times removed from each other. I did find out which part of the country the hot match lived in (right on the doorstep of the archives office we all need to push this line further back)but they don't want to do the research. Glen

Yes, I too have noticed a resistance to correct information! Someone contacted me recently with a supposed contact to a sibling of my 12 x GGF. This sibling had married and produced children etc, which had eventually led to the birth of my contact. Except - the sibling had died, aged 4, and I have a copy of the Parish Register entry, giving the names of her parents. Contact refused to believe this - they had, they said, got all their info from 'someone on the IGI, who has done a lot of work on this family'. You cannot help some people. OC