Genealogy Chat

Hi all,
Advice needed please see below:
I have started to look into my boyfriends stepfathers familytree, (will refer to him as D ). D unfortunately has cancer at the moment so i cant say anything about what i have found out. Anyway i got Ds birth certificate born in 1953 and all was fine (hes the oldest of three), then i searched for his parents marriage and found out they werent married until 14 years later in 1967 which was a shock in itself as he always said they were married when he was born, anyway now i have found out that Ds dad was already married to someone else in 1953 and his wife didnt die until 1967 he had aleast 3 children with his first wife so that would make them Ds stepbrothers and sisters, i have got all the bmd certificates to prove names dates etc, and it turns out after his first wife died in Fed 1967 he eventually married Ds mum 4 weeks later at the end of march. Would you carry on and dig deeper or leave it alone now, i defo cant let D know as he is very ill at the moment and i think finding something out like this would do more harm than good x

Actually the children from his father's first marriage would be his half-siblings wouldn't they? But I think you have answered your own question really - if he is so ill I would drop it if were me. He isn't a blood relative of your boyfriend so of no significance for his family tree.
Jan

Personally I think the info you have found isn't yours to divulge in any way. Even if D was your boyfriends natural father he is still alive so his personal family details are just that .personal.

I would leave well alone at the moment and only continue if you are requested to. Plus I wouldn't tell anyone what you have found either as things can slip out unintentionally

Thanks for your rePlys think I am going to leave it alone now, if he wants me to look into it he can ask me himself when he is ready.x

I think its a wise choice.