Genealogy Chat

Personally, I would not have let him see my tree until I could establish there was a connection that I was interested in following up, and that he was, from the tone and content of his messages, someone with whom I wanted to have as a contact.

I have just messaged him to say that I use GR for lots of things, to help other people with their tree, to help anyone who thinks they have a connection to mine and can give me a name to work from, to use chat, very occasionally to use search facility, to ask for help...but not for my tree and not for the Hotmatches that are so way out anyway...pointing out they match name.DOB, but NOT place of Birth..........and so often no 'match' at all.

Would you close your tree if you were me or persevere with him?!

"Hi Genes thinks there is a connection, If you cant show me your tree what are you doing on genes.? " !!!!

this the latest in a string of messages...starting with sender "who are you researching?" answered by me politely with surnames

sender..."open tree request"

answered by me "I don't have a full tree on here, how do you think we are connected?"

"We are connected, whether that is close or distant, I have 1000s of names already" ( "PS Don't forget to open your tree !)

( Australia now in header...I have very few there and all recent and all known)

I explained once again that my tree is largely 'elsewhere' and asked for some names...but said I would open my tree anyway...trying to be helpful. I also asked to look at his tree thought I might get a clue!

he opened his tree, I looked..not one name that I could see of 'mine' so i asked again very politely if he could give me a name that he though connected us.

This morning rec' the message at top of this rant!

SO PLEASE if you are asking to see someone's tree be specific, say the why and the wherefore and DON'T nark at people who don't keep a tree on here that satisfies you, it is their money, it is their choice!

( 3rd cup of coffee to calm me coming up!)