Genealogy Chat

I feel Cheryl in your case it is a massive intrusion into your privacy as you are all living. I would contact her again and ask her to remove all your family from her public tree as she did not have your permission.

This is why I object to records of living people being available on the Internet as we as individuals lose control over what information about ourselves being put in the public domain.

I made contact with a 2nd cousin of my husband in the spring. They have a tree on Ancestry. They sent me their details so I could look at their tree, which was huge, but had no one on it that I didn't already have. I was amazed and a little upset that she had my children details, my marriage and my husbands ex-wife and her subsequent marriage and children all on her tree. She had all the details saved in her shoebox too. I have been married for 15 years , so why she needs my husbands ex and her 2 further husbands and 2 children I do not know. We never gave her any of the info, she just found it. She has a public tree. I asked her why she felt she had to have all the info. I never got a reply.
I have also noticed she has now started on my mum in laws family even though mum in law hasn't seen her mum since she was a baby. Why do people have to do this.

Michael, I have had a similar occurrence and it is not nice.

PigletsPal

This is not a case of name co-incidence but exact matches. My surname is relatively unique and my father and brother were the only people with those same names, dates and places of birth. I certainly do not consider my inital message to be an over reaction when a complete stranger adds my next of kin to their tree and then fails to respond to a polite message requesting family connection details.

I would think if the circumstances were reversed and I had added this strangers immediate family details to my tree they would want to know the connection. I am certain most members on GR would also ask the same.

The main point of my initial message was one of rudeness by failing to reply to a message that clealry indicated that other immediate members of this family are still living.

Michael

When I am bored I do start to look for "leaves" on my tree and this gives me a much larger picture of where I come from. I have made contact with some of these leaves and find they are as interested as I am as to how fragmented families can be.

Finding 2nd cousins who went off to the States after the 1st WW, and who`s decendents know nothing of their UK roots, has been a great experience.

Kathlyn

Don't worry too much about it Mick - I've sussed it.
Bet it's that unknown uncle, the black sheep of the family, the one nobody ever mentioned, but who has more money than he knows what to do with. He's coming up for 115 yrs old next birthday, and is writing his Will and just wants to make sure you don't get left out on receiving the hugest wad of cash you ever did see!!!!!!!!

And his ranch, and his land, and his sheep station.......etc


K

I think you are over-reacting a tad. Some of us have very extensive trees and like to work out cousins, 2nd, 3rd and even 4th cousins because it gives us a very wide picture of our origins. I can't really see the harm there.As to answering messages- some of us don't check gr that often because it is not our main source of information.

I have recently discovered that if a recipient of a message simply deletes the message without reading it, it will showup on your sent box as read.

I cannot see any reason why they wouldn't reply to you as a blood relative surely they would see you as a person who could give them further information. Unless of course it is embarrassment.

I`m with you on this one Mick........... as you say both people are Deceased so can be added to anyone tree publically, but if you have no direct connection to these people why would you want to ignore someone who is blood related when they contact you?

I expect they are embarrased now you have contacted them, prehaps they will reply later, plenty of people read messages and then deal with them later on, it dos`nt mean they won`t correspond with you at a later date.


How intresting that they have somehow made a connection to your brother and father, when you have no idea who they are.





Nicky

Just over a week ago, the Surname Summary facility indicated a member had added my father and one of my brothers to their tree. The members name is not one that I am aware of having the remotest of connections with my immediate family. I did send a message asking for their connection to my family which my postbox indicates was read but so far ignored.

It's fair to say both of these family members of mine are deceased and could be publically added to a family tree that has a relevant connection. I do find it EXTREMELY RUDE however for a member to ignore a request for information about my immediate family. I suspect they may feel more than somewhat embarressed trying to explain a family connection.

I have no problem if a person wants to be a name hunter-gatherer-reaper, they only have my sympathy as it is they that have a problem not myself.

Michael